Today changed my life. The die-hard conservative, practicing Catholic, and biggest pro-life advocate I've ever met changed her opinion and became pro-choice. That person is me.
For my entire life, my parents and the Catholic church has brainwashed me into thinking that the terms of life were always and eternally from conception to natural death and I didn't have much of a problem believing it at first. I mean, the only words about abortion that I had ever heard were that abortion was murder and any sort of zygote was considered life, than my boyfriend and I went out for ice cream and he dropped a bomb on me that really swayed my standings.
My boyfriend's best friend has been with his girlfriend for about eight months now and they seem very happy together. Little did I know that they're three months pregnant and on completely opposite standings with the abortion issue. My boyfriend's best friend has no problem getting an abortion and just forgetting that they ever had unprotected sex. However, his girlfriend is an even bigger pro-lifer than I was and refuses to even look at Planned Parenthood as an option. To add another twist to the story, her boyfriend says that if she keeps the baby, he's going to have nothing to do with her. My boyfriend says that's because her father is going to kill her boyfriend first, but I think it's just because he's too lazy to committ to the problems that he helped cause.
So my boyfriend posed an interesting question to me, which has yet to come up in the course of our three-year relationship: what would we do if I got pregnant accidentally? I said, without even thinking, that I'd have him drive me to Planned Parenthood the next day and we'd start the abortion process. He looked at me as if he were suddenly dating a man and I couldn't believe I had just converted to pro-choice without even thinking about it. But it's true. I'm selfish. I could never give up a wonderful relationship, a college scholarship, and a future career just because my sexual relations didn't go as planned. I'd have an abortion without even thinking it through, but get disgusted when I hear other women going through with it. I'm a hypocrite, I know, but it's hard to adjust to a newfound pro-choice self.
I had to tell myself that if I would have an abortion that easily, I have to have the same opinions for everyone who wants to have an abortion regardless or their reasonings or situation. It's not as if abortion is the ONLY option. There is adoption or the classic "drop the baby off at the hospital and run" technique. At least the child's safe that way.
Don't get me wrong, I do think that as soon as a child is conceived, it's life. But, I would end that life if I were in that situation. I mean, I'm sure I'd be more concerned and think more into it if I actually were in that situation, but my opinions from a non-pregnant viewpoint are what I just stated. So, I'm changing my moral code. As of today, I'm pro-choice. And as awkward as it felt at first, I feel more comfortable now. If I wouldn't want to be forced to give up my life, why expect every other accidentally impregnated female to give up theirs? They probably have friends and family and loving boyfriends too.
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So typical of a guy to do the deed and bolt just as easily. of course, the guy would be willing to have the abortion-- he is not the one having the baby.
but now that you see the consequences of unsafe sex...you need to be careful. cause i think deep down you wouldn't want an abortion. it's not that you would want the abortion, it's simply that you are not ready for the baby.
and just in case you do become preganant. remember adoption is an option. so many unsterile women are anxiously hoping to adopt and have a family.
something to think about.
http://www.progressiveu.org/192048-pro-choice-whose-choice-is-it-really
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"The way of a fool is right in his own eyes." Solomon
I agree....I had always thought that I would be against it. but then when you start to think about what you would do in that situation your views change completely.
I am anti-abortion. I don't deal in metaphors and in political correctness.
I want to tell you that prenancy is not an accident, and you know it.
Don't blame the guy, if you sit on it, you won't get pregnant. If you don't get pregnant you won't have to make a choice between life and death of the new life that you you just caused.
I know pregnancy's not an accident. Girls can figure out very well when they ovulate and birth control can be bought cheaply at almost any drug store. And to tell you the truth, me and my boyfriend of three years are abstinent and plan on doing so until we feel we're ready. But, maybe that's why I can have such a lax opinion on being pro-choice if I were in that situation. Probably because I know I never would be (God-willing).
VERONICA!
Ever seen a picture of an aborted baby?
http://klannedparenthood.com/Aborted_Baby_Pictures_Abortion_Photos/
You tell me that's just a clump of cells.
Needless to say, I'm pro-life.
I thought I mentioned that I felt that the cells that start to form on the first day of conception is life. I DO feel one hundred percent that it's life. I just said that I really don't know how I'd feel if I were put in that situation. But to me abortion is murder.
VERONICA!
Do you think that all abortions are of fetuses of that size? Clearly those are no longer 'clumps of cells', or zygotes, but don't pretend that they look like that at every stage of pregnancy. Your sample is biased - there are no pictures of aborted zygotes because you can't see them when they are that small. When you scratch your nose, you are rubbing off more cells than what a zygote is comprised of.
Thinking that a zygote at conception and a fetus in the second or third trimester are the same thing is too simplistic. There is a big difference between the two, not just in size or some gross-out factor from pictures.
To me, the second conception happens is the second life starts. Sorry.
VERONICA!
What bullshit. Abortion isn't a birth control method. You don't want your unwanted pregnancy to be in the way of your future? Too bad. You should've thought that before you had sex.
People like you are the reason we have a movement against abortion. I think you're confusing "pro-choice" with "pro-abortion." The "pro-choice" people so far argue that abortion should be considered when the mother's life is at risk or, of course, in cases of rape.
I repeat: abortion is not a birth control method. Life begins at conception. No one deserves to die because his or her parents do not want to take responsibility for their action. Don't want a baby? Don't have sex. Sex is the only way you can have a baby. Know that.
We were all zygotes once. Don't pretend that those are just "clump of cells." Don't pretend that the cells we rub off when we scratch our nose can become a human being. There is yet a huge difference between the two kinds of cells. The least you can do is admit that.
I'm going to say this again, and apologize again, but I thought I had already stated in the article that I DEFINITELY ONE HUNDRED PERCENT feel that the second conception happens is the second that life starts. I am no expert on biology, so I don't know the technical medical terms for the different stages of pregnancy, so I said cells as a general term. But I used to be completely pro-life and I still think that the second conception happens is the second life starts. I do feel that abortion takes away life and it should not be used as a birth control method. I would NOT be proud if I went through with an abortion, but since my boyfriend and myself are abstinent, like I also mentioned in a previous comment, I partially feel this way because I know it will never happen to me.
I think you misunderstood my point. I was just venting my frustrations about a personal story, but since this story was so close to home and so realistic and something I had never seen before, I was trying to put myself in her shoes.
I apologize if you misunderstood, but I was just putting a question and a common feeling out there. Not many girls that get pregnant would want to give up their lives for a child, even though it is their responsibility.
VERONICA!