Well me and my I guess you could say boyfriend have been together for about 15 months. The thing is we got in a fight a long time ago and he said, "We will never be together again." I shook my head trying to think that he was just mad at me for what had recently went on. We get in small arguments every now and again but I think about him all the time. Every decision that I make revolves around him. I try not to make this so but it is so hard to avoid it.
The bad thing is my dad heard some things about him from a teacher at school that likes to gossip so he does not like him at all. My boyfriend has done nothing to disrespect my father and my father knows that. But like most fathers he cannot let go. I will be attending college in the fall and hopefully he will start to realize that I have grown up.
Yeah sometimes my boyfriend makes me cry or he makes me think that things are my fault but he also tells me he loves me. He cares for me very much and he wouldn't let anything hurt me. He is the first boy that I have had a serious relationship with and I hate the fact that my father dislikes his for no apparent reason. The anger that I create because of this situation has kind of grown on me and it is part of my everyday stress. I don't know what else to do anymore. We've tried everything and we really want to work when I go to college and he goes into the military but there is one thing standing in our way... my dad.
My dad used to be the same way he wouldn't let go of my hand. He thought I was still 10. Cherish him while you still got him. He won't be around forever you know.
a lot like what i did.... this sentence; "Yeah sometimes my boyfriend makes me cry or he makes me think that things are my fault but he also tells me he loves me. "
is a dangerous one.
the two do not mix.
I'm tending to agree with your father. Sometimes parents know things we dont.
If I believed that 4 months ago... with my boyfriend...I wouldnt have gone through the hell i did.
I wish you three the best of luck.
I agree. If he loved you and really wouldn't do anything to hurt you, then he wouldn't make you cry.
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Sounds like trouble waiting to happen. I know you do not want to here this but the boy needs to go. it will pull the heart string but it has got to happen. I have been there, your dad knows and is trying to help but he is a parent and teens never beleive them.
Run like the wind because I love you is no reason to tolerate because things wont change because things only get bigger nuances.
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You wonder what your dad has against him....
yet you say he makes you cry and makes things sound like your fault.
If you were looking for sympathy, you'll get none from me, and that's not an insult... it's me reaching out to help.
I don't like him, either.
Yeah sometimes my boyfriend makes me cry or he makes me think that things are my fault but he also tells me he loves me. He cares for me very much and he wouldn't let anything hurt me. ... I know it's a bit extreme, but women in abusive relationships say the same thing. This doesn't really help your case.
Dad may not be wrong on this one...
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You said it better then I could, For a second there I thought I was imagining the abusive language and evil underevery rock.
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i would say your Dad is right on.
Don't write him off. I am not judging based on anything your teacher said or on any gossip or second ahnd information. I am judging based on your own words. A boyfriedn who loves you in a healthy way would not need to make you feel things are your fault. He would talk to you openly about issues the two of you have and would want to work together to solve them. No making one party cry and no laying blame. Dad seems to be on to something here...
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If you feel he is really worth it, perhaps your dad and boyfriend should meet, so that your dad is judging him based on his own observations instead of someone else's. If he still disapproves, give your dad's advice some serious thought, because he knows what he's talking about.
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