Teen Pregnecies...

I agree that getting pregnant as a teen isn't a very good choice. However, to say that it ruins someone life is giving them a crutch for them to use forever. Getting pregnant didn't ruin your mom's life. Getting pregnant as a teen doesn't have to ruin anyone's life. People seem to forget about the whole adoption option when thinking about pregnancy. Sure, some people make a mistake. However, they don't need to follow that mistake up with even more mistakes until their life is "ruined." They can take a troublesome situation and spin it in a positive light instead.

Your mom being homeless has nothing to do with you, or her other child. They were her decisions and the fact that you believe it's your fault speaks volumes about how she treated you in that regard.

Assuming you're about 18 now, that would put her at 35 and she was 27 when she had her second child. At 27, you damn well better have your life in enough order to be able to make a decent decision and better be able to pay for the consequences of your actions. The fact that she got herself pregnant again, after having already raised a child from 17 and knew first hand the effects a baby has on a person/family, shows that she seriously needs to get her act together and seriously needs a wake-up call.

You know the best thing that you can probably give your spouse on you wedding night is your virginity.

While I can't argue the fact that the only guaranteed protection is not having sex at all, I can't let this line slide. From this and the other line, I can tell exactly what form of sex ed you had (or at least the one that stuck), because this is the rhetoric, nearly word for word, that's used, and if you think that the best thing you can give your spouse is your virginity, then you need to reconsider your motives for getting married to begin with.

What so many teens fail to realize, and what so many adults fail to tell teens, is that marriage isn't just about sex, or even just about love. Marriage is a commitment, a team sport, a companionship like none other. When you marry someone, you're committing to live with that person, put up with their quirks, work with them to get through things. Sex, as awesome as it is, is just icing on the cake, a few moments in a sea of other experiences.

Now, that's not to say go out and have sex like you're going to die tomorrow or something. There's nothing wrong with choosing to not have sex. I did the same thing until I met the man I married. However, there is far, far more to a long, lasting relationship than just sex.

if you think that the best thing you can give your spouse is your virginity, then you need to reconsider your motives for getting married to begin with.

I second the previous poster's response. Besides completely ignoring the point of marriage, it also indicates that if something happens and someone decides to marry a second time (a widow or widower remarrying, for instance), the night of the wedding is somehow less powerful because they're not a virgin.

~C
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Would you be willing to outline the downhill your mother has experienced for her to become homeless?

Do you feel guilty about the situation your mother is lingering in?

“Do you think that maybe they were not getting enough attention at home?”

The lack of affection many youngsters suffer today is partly responsible for some of their behavior, this lack of affection is mostly present in worldly spots of plenty and were a focus upon a materialist lifestyle is vivid.

“What were these poor girls thinking?”

They were not thinking, the reason why they did so is because they were driven by a strong emotion, like a cry to express what they felt inside, it’s a form of emotional (non violent) rebellion carrying a bad taste for those who cannot relate to their action(s).

Apparently one got involved with a homeless man, and this is not yet socially accepted in her social neighborhood. I guess now she got a taste of life reality, whether she will regret her action is of no importance, the baby is and some thought should be put in place in order to understand why anyone, or in this case a group of youngsters get this kind of inspiration!

“You know the best thing that you can probably give your spouse on your wedding night is your virginity.”

Probably is a way to peak (think) into a certain future of your own reality, your familial past and experiences have opened up some awareness which you are expressing beautifully, still, what’s makes each and every individual unique is his/her proper personal approach in situations which mould the course of his/her live.

Virginity is not the (only) key to a successful happy life!

Experiences you have lived can represent a key to gain were others don’t even reach in awareness you already carry within.

That you are openly spreading awareness around your experiences is quite remarkable and uplifting for all who come across this blog you wrote.

Live is one big journey of self-discovery and I can only hope you don’t carry any guild upon your shoulders, I hope you might be willing to explain more about the misfortunes your mother has gone trough for her to end up homeless.
If it brings you any discomfort, don’t!

Would be nice if more persons would open up the way you are doing, even if it doesn’t apply on a personal level, we all still learn out it,

allways…

Take some time to edit and clean up your grammar, some mistakes like your blog title will costs you some reads! And please don’t mind my grammar, lol!

1. i'm 19 almost 20 and my mom had my brother at 29

2. mu grandmother raised my mom right because i was also raised by my grnadmother and she is very affectionate!

I'm sorry, but it simply isn't true that "teenage girls have been getting pregnant left and right recently." In fact, teen pregnancy rates have been in a steady decline since the 1950's.

The rate of teen childbearing in the United States has fallen steeply since the late 1950s, from an all time high of 96 births per 1,000 women aged 15-19 in 1957 to an all time low of 49 in 2000 (see chart below). Birthrates fell steadily throughout the 1960s and 1970s; they were fairly steady in the early 1980s and then rose sharply between 1988 and 1991 before declining throughout the 1990s. In recent years, this downward trend has occurred among teens of all ages and races.

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I am sympathetic towards your situation and your advice is well meant, but your advice about abstinence being the "only 100 percent sure way" to avoid pregnancy and STD's seems a little misguided.

TTFN,
Blackout

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