how do you change the person you have been for years now? whenever all i do i feel is wrong. i hate the feeling or letting a person down or by hurting their feelings. it makes me really upset and i dont understand why i do it. i think im just trying to prevent myself from getting hurt. i dont even think anyone is going to hurt me, but i think theres that constant fear that will never leave me. its all from being hurt before. once youve experienced something tragic in your life, its hard to ever be the same as you were before. its a hard thing to realize in life, but its part of life that im sure everyone will experienced at one time or another.
i just feel right now im not being the best person that i know i can be. im trying to change how i am with certain things, like getting mad, but it seems to not be working. i dont know exactly what i should do to change how i am. ive tried not saying anything about how i feel with things that annoy me or make me mad, but then i realize that it only bothers me more..and things i say sometimes seem to hurt other people. i dont even know how i became a person like this. like im not a rude person at all, i get along with everyone fine. but i should certain people this side of me that they would not expect. and i tend to show this side to people who are really close to me. i dont know if its because im not afraid of what theyll think or if i just want them to know the real me. i dont really know. but i hope i can learn to fix things and be more calm about things that annoy me.
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thats so true everything is a hazard. you dont want to hurt any1 or even yourself but i guess things haoppen for a reason and that is why life can be hard. im not rude or crude. i just get pissed off and i dont want any1 to calm me down. i'm nice and ppl lyk my personality. i would learn to try to stop being who i am. im fine w/ some things but i just need to change and i dont kno how to if there was a way to change i wish someone would tell me how to.
You need to focus, because there are some things you need to accept!
Regardless of what is happening around in the midst of your home, family and friends, you need to understand that they all love you, although it might not always show, they all do love you!
You will need to work on your self, meaning that if you want to feel love inside of your heart it is important to accept yourself for who you are.
What most people don’t understand is that love comes from within your own heart and not from the outside. This might sound strange, because it is strange just as it is the truth regarding love.
So in order to get some emotional balance you need to reflect love inside yourself, this is the only way to affect your surroundings and for them to respond.
In order for this to take place you need to deal with that pain you carry inside, this pain is because you don’t feel loved, therefore you allow fear to control your emotional state!
Try to enjoy the person that you are, get to know yourself…
If you don’t know how to handle this, let me know,,, I will point out on you how to get there,
Take care,
Try de-stressing and getting in touch with yourself, and who you really are. It sounds like it's less a question of changing, and more a question of discovering who YOU are.
I'd suggest signing up for a Yoga or Meditation class. Sounds new-agey, I know, but they really are great. I love these things, they are so relaxing, and it's just "me" time I can take for myself a couple times a week to get in touch with myself.
Plus your body feels better and your mind clearer afterwards!
i think changing begins with a decision and remembering that decision.
Sometimes you actually need to practice exact actions or things of that nature, but with most things in life I've found making that single DETERMINED decision and remembering it seem to unconciously begin changing myself. After a while i notice, "wow when is the last time i did ..."
Your Brother Rhino!
...if you are trying to change a habit or a behavior. Because the brain can change the configuration of neurons. I wonder, though, what needs to be done to achieve a more holistic change? Like a change of heart or of mind.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman