When it comes to who I am I am one of the first people to admit my faults. I'm aware of what is bad about me and what is good. What bothers me is when people who don't even know me judge me. Why is how I live my life, or how I have lived, any of your business. There's this one guy at school who just down right hates me even though I've never been anything but nice to him (really, if I had been mean I would admit to it). Why he hates me is the stupidest reason in the world. Before I moved to this small ass backwards school I lived in a city. In that city there were a lot more opportunities to be... bad I guess you could say. So he doesn't like me for my past, which I have openly said I regret, and he also doesn't like me because I don't go to church all that often. Why is it up to him to morally judge me? Why is it that people who are basically strangers judge people before they get to know them? I try my damndest to not judge someone until I have known them for a while. It just bothers me because this one guy has ruined a lot of my opportunities to date someone because of how I used to be.
I guess my point is that people should really stop and think before they judge someone. Do they know the person, and how well. If the person openly admits a mistake, forgive them. Don't hold it against them. I have made some excellent friends just because I didn't judge them until I knew them. One of my very best friends is someone I would never have expected to be friends with, and her "weird" friends don;t judge me as harshly as my "normal" friends.
Im sorry for being slightly harsh towards your point, becuase i really do agree with it, but frankly it doesnt matter if you want people to be forgiving because people arent going to be. People, as a whole, are jerks honestly, there are good ones and there are bad ones, and like stick to like mostly. Thats about all I can say about it.
I believe as long as you have changed and corrected your mistakes, who cares about those idiots. Those who are judging you are just close minded. Don't dwell on them nor waste your energy looking for their forgiviness. you do not need it. you have made some friends, you have changed for the better. that is all that matters. be you and be happy. good luck
It makes me mad when people judge others when they don't even know them. No one has a right to judge anyone else. People nit-pick others so they won't notice their own faults.
It makes me sad that the guy you talk about hates you because you don't go to church. That kind of person gives Christians a bad name. People like that makes Christians out to be hypocritical haters. I am a Christian, but I don't judge anyone for not going to church. A lot of my friends don't go to church. It would be nice if they did, but that's their choice.
Ever heard the saying "to know someone you have to have walked a mile in their shoes"?
Chances are, if they were who you are, had grown up in the same household, with the same gender, same appearance, same personality traits inherited from your parents, they would do things exactly the same way you did in the situations you were presented with.
Our experiences and how we handle them is what makes us unique as people. Judgemental people are judgemental because they learned how to be from someone. Non-judgemental people are non-judgemental because they were taught either from people or by experience or because they have been judged or misjudged so harshly they refuse to treat people like they have been treated.
If you want to make a point with this guy, quote him the bible verse "Judge not, lest you be judged." If he is in fact religious, he'll hear you.