defined by action and not an innate sexual desire? Since when does a 20 year old bisexual who's never slept with a man or woman in her life have to sleep with a woman to know she's attracted to them? If you asked the 40 year old virgin if he was straight what do you think his answer would be? But the minute someone who's nonhetero admits "deviant" attractions, they MUST have the experience before they can call themselves anything. WTF is that? If I were a STRAIGHT virgin you wouldn't be questioning my sexuality! I am sexually attracted to biological men. I am sexually attracted to biological women. I am not attracted to transexuals. I am therefore bisexual (and not pansexual). What else do you need? If I never engaged in coitus I'd STILL be attracted to men, and I would STILL be bisexual. If I get a boyfriend, get married, have kids, grow old and fucking die and never have anything to do with women I'd STILL be attracted to women, and I'd still be bisexual. I don't need experience to know I like penises, breasts, big butts and vaginas. I don't need experience to know I love the sound of a man's voice, and the feel of a woman's curve. Some people are so blind, and I'm getting tired of them bumping into me.
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I figured I'd inform you that I like how open you are being within your blog. The only critique I would give you, though I'm not to sure if you want it, is to be less angry and more connected to your words when you write this. But you make a very valuable point and give another point of view to the issue. Just thought I'd give my two cents. :)
-Chelsea
^_^ I was angry because this was a rant, and stemmed from something that had just happened. I was VERY connected to my words-anger is an emotion. ^_^
I'm not usually angry though, so don't fret.
Very good point- I initially typed out a long comment to leave on this, but it turned into a rant against people who believe in 'homophobia' and mistreating or questioning the intentions of those who chose not to be straight. So I deleted it all, and will instead let you know that I agree with what you are saying.
People to easily assume and verbalize their unbacked opinions without knowing a damn thing about what they are saying. It's very frustrating, hopefully if we keep standing up to that mind set it will disperse.
That sounds really optimistic, but I hope it happens... :D
-S
Bumped me to the first page, WEWT! LOL. Seriously though, it still bugs me, lol.
The world today is very interested in things sexual and sensual. This causes certain people to become antagonistic. Just as all things. For example, if a certain genre of music is sweeping the charts then shortly people will rage against it (be it many people or small groups). The way I see it, any time that you are different from the norm, people will be accepting and judgmental. That's life.
Dubya
An attraction to someone is not based on the experience you have with them. Before you even start dating someone you have an attraction to them, before anything physical their is an attraction. You can't help who you are attracted to and people need to get over their predjudices and opinions that the don't know anything about and learn to understand before they make up their minds on something.
~*~Mathea~*~
Its sad but as the times change people join the bandwagon and our society influences us to say what we say. . .We as individuals are shadowed and looked upon with disdainment when we say what we mean so sometimes we just get on the horse adn run with it!
Or is it the armchair voyeur? In any case, as I am not a person defined chiefly by my sexuality in my daily life, I am at times curious by those who seem to be. As a hetereo man I am not angry at the odd tranny who E-mails me in hopes of getting into my pants. I understand outrage and just plain rage at hose who physically harm others for their perceived sexuality or prevent the different from renting or holding jobs. By I don't get upset with people who don't want what I want or who don't want me or who mistake me for one thing when I am really another.
I recall once being mildly curious about a man who claimed to be gay even though he said he had never had gay sex. And I wondered about the ethics of of two men in another case, one who though gay spent time flirting heavily with attractive young women, and another gay man who badly wanted to bed the first who spent his time outing the gay flirt to those self same young women.
I guess I wind up being mildly curious of this notion of bumping into these irritating people who do not understand you as you wish to be understood. Are these folks in your work place and therefore unavoidable? But I do not talk about sex at work nor do I date at work so my understanding of such matters would be sorely lacking. Or do these people who are so vexing see you in a night club or these very pages?
Is there a hierarchy of outrage by the way? I don't care for people who use the whole of the outdoors for an ashtray but I find their behavior to be less offensive than the behavior of say a president and a vice president who take us into a bloody and expensive war, for non-existent nuclear weapons.
"I recall once being mildly curious about a man who claimed to be gay even though he said he had never had gay sex."
I'm not sure what you mean when you say you were "curious" about him.
We are all in that position at some point, being gay, straight or bi with no sexual experience. When I was eight years old, my brother was fantasizing about someday marrying a woman, while I was fantasizing about someday marrying a man. He'd look at a bikini babe at the beach and it would make his heart race, while I'd look at the hot guy next to her and get the same feeling. He was straight and I was gay; we didn't have to try anything out to know that because it was obvious by observing our internal psychological as well as our physiological reactions to men and women.