I agree, marriage should be kept sacred.

I believe that there are criteria that should be used to decide if a marriage should happen.

I believe that the two people in question should love each other; that the union is done to please only the two involved, not any outside parties; that both parties should have to undergo a test of sorts, to determine their maturity levels.

(Notice in there that I had nothing on “One party should be male and the other female”.)

Yes, I believe in keeping marriage sacred. I believe that marriage should be a one-time thing, with someone that (to use myself as an example) I truly care about, work well with, and can agree with in most subject areas. I hope that my marriage causes me to grow up, not in the sense that I’m going to go from child to adult, but that I will learn that I can’t always work alone.

I don’t care if I end up married to a man or a woman; call me crazy, but I call myself pansexual, meaning that I see past gender identities and just love a person for whom he or she really is inside (alright, I admit, I’m a sucker for the tall type, with blonde hair and blue eyes. So shoot me, I’m only human). While I tend to refer to myself as bisexual, especially with my friends (most of whom aren’t walking dictionary/thesaurus combinations like myself, which means I’d have to explain, and probably leave them more confused than before), I do consider myself pansexual.

…Just don’t tell my dad. I think he’d shoot me.

But yeah, back to the marriage thing… What I want to know is, if I were to fall in love with a woman or someone who is genderqueer, for example, but originally a female… Why wouldn’t we be able to be married? As much as I love being “unique” and fighting the system… Deep down, I’m a girly-girl who’s always had this fantasy of me in a poof-tastic dress. You know, the one where I could keep a small village underneath the skirt? Yeah, that kind. I’ve always dreamed of spending that day with the one I love.

So why is it, to keep marriage “sacred”, I could possibly be denied that day with the one I love?

Oh, sure, I could stage the whole wedding… But at the end, we’d both still be single, in the eyes of the law.

Personally, if people want to keep marriage “sacred”, they need to start by banning 55-hour marriages, like Britney Spears’ own. Not two loving people who want to take their relationship to the next level, in both their eyes, the eyes of their family/friends, and the government.

(ediblewoman, why do I have a feeling that, when you saw the title, your jaw dropped and/or you went "What the..." in your head [at least]?)