Over the last year I have met more people around my age who are virgins rather than sexual maniacs. Granted I am no longer the former, many young adults are holding out for that special person who they love. Some of the people I have met, even though virgins, have gone around the other bases a few times. Nevertheless most are waiting for marriage. Now I have heard you have to "test drive the car before you buy it", but is it really that important? Sex enhances a bond once it's already formed, but I don't believe it's a good way to start out a relationship or base one off of.
Sex is all over the media and in music, but I still think this generation has some belief that sex is not the most important thing in their life. I know the amount of teen pregnancies has grown, but does it necessarily mean that girl who got pregnant was having sex a lot? It could have been her first time and their inexperience might have led to the unplanned pregnancy.
I think it might be the new fad to stay a virgin. I have talked to many guys about this, and they prefer to be in a relationship with a pure girl rather than a sex animal. As guys get older, they are starting to look for life partners rather than one night stands. A reason why most guys are afraid of marriage is that they are worried they might be marrying the wrong person. Guys won't invest their time in a relationship unless it's going to go somewhere. Some younger guys, however, still have the "hit it and quit it" mindset but this fad is slowly fading.
I'm proud to say I still have my v-card. I mean yeah I've done things I can't say I'm necessarily proud of...but I'm holding out not putting out. Every guy that I've dated has completely respected that even though only one of them was still a virgin. I've been in plenty of situations where I could have easily given in to temptation, but I never have. I do have a lot of friends that are also waiting, but going to a high school with one of the highest pregnancy rates, you see a lot more sex. I think it's good that more kids are waiting.
Unfortunately, we are the sex generation. Everyone is constantly thinking about hooking up and will do anything to get it. Sex is the reason teens drink and do drugs, so they can fake lower inhibitions and get off.
But, thank god, there are exceptions to every rule. I am one of them. And its not even a religious thing for me, as it is for many. I'm happy there are people with sense in them like you, but the overwhelming majority of people lost their v-card, and there's a lot more who would have if they had been given the opportunity.
I recently wrote a blog about sex education and am interested to hear other viewpoints. Please read it and comment. http://www.progressiveu.org/171241-comprehensive-sex-ed-should-we-be-tea.... Thanks.
the idea of waiting untill marriage untill after I began dating a girl who wanted to remain a virgin untill marriage. The idea didn't make sense to me at the time, but now I really do understand the arguments against premarital sex. I think of alot of the people who sleep around and how unhappy they are, and then I look at the people who are celebate (or at least choosey) and they are a lot more stable.
"How can we win where fools can be kings" Muse
There is nothing wrong in waiting to have sex until a serious relationship comes along.
but what appears to me is that people who have had sex are assumed to be sex maniacs. this creates two extremes.
to me it is a personal choice. i have seen people being called a slut because they enjoy having sex, and i have heard people call people prude becuase they are virgins.
all of this name calling needs to stop. choosing not to have sex is fine
choosing to have sex ( with protection) is fine.but we need to remember that we should respect ourselves and others.
and that includes not labeling people as whores, sluts, and prudes.
I don't think this is a generation of sex.
It seems that this younger generation doesn't know how to deal with sex.
I'm not in a relationship right now, but I have quite a few friends who are. Purity and chastity are at the top of their priorities and they will let people know it. I think that those who believe in purity and chastity should share the fact more, because I think that if more people thought it was a new trend, then more people would save themselves. Pre-marital sex is a big cause of various STDs and teenage pregnancies. With a lower rate of p-m sex, then we'd see a drop in those, too.
RESPECT LIFE
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"It is poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish."
~Mother Teresa
Things will change in different forms, meaning: relationships like we know them today will change in form. Things actually already do.
Love and proper emotion will steer emotions back in a more appropriated balance when the time is right, consider all the madness around like a cleansing of the old, we are not even halfway of this process, the more one fights it, the more it will affect one in negative way’s.
Patience,
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