Ever since we started High School, one of my closest friends has changed, and not for the better. Freshman year she barely hung around with our group but instead she hung out with her sister and the rest of the seniors. Thats where is all started. We had a few classes together and that was the only time we talked. She was always talking about the party she had just went to, or the guy she had "sex" with. (FYI my friend is not on b.c. pills). I started worrying about her, but I didn't know what to say. After Freshman year it got easier. Her sister was no longer at school, and she finally started hanging back out with us. However her skipping school to go have sex with a guy didn't change. I remember her texting me to let her back in the side doors. However the problem was is she had a boyfriend at the time, but it wasn't the one she had sex with. I was on b.c. pills and I tried to get her to go. I even told her I would go with her but she never went. Junior year came and she changed boyfriends. He ex moved to Indianna so we all hoped that she would change. And I have to admit it did. She had one boyfriend the whole time, even though they did have sex she still wouldnt get b.c. pills. But hey she was with one guy. Now this year. Our Senior year. She has fallen so low. I love her to death but she has the same boyfriend but has cheated on him. When I ask her about her and "the other guy" she just says that she is having fun.(FYI this guy is 2 grades younger than we are, is one of my ex-boyfriends, the star b-ball player and quarterback, and he really is a nice guy). I feel real bad for this guy because he is a really sweet guy and all, however, he too as a girlfriend. I feel bad for him but then I feel like he is doing the same thing she is. Today I asked her about it and she said that over Spring Break that she was going to hang out with him as much as she can and just "HAVE FUN". I don't know what to say to her anymore. Does anyone have any advice that could help me? Has anyone been in the same situation with their friend? The only good news I have is that she is going to the Health Department over Spring Break to get tested and hopefully get pills finally.
Im Scared My Friend Is Throwing Away Her Life
By UCDance33 - Posted on March 10th, 2008
I'm really not sure what you can say to her. You can't change someone else's behavior. All you can do is to let her know that you are worried about her. Make sure she knows that you're only worried because you care. Try not to make any accusations or say anything mean to her. This may turn her against you. All you can do is let her know how you feel and help her if she asks for help. Just remember that you can't help anyone who doesn't want it.