Bi-chic

I have nothing wrong with GLBT people. I have friends who fall into one or more of those categories, and I myself am bi. This is just a blurb on one thing I’ve noticed in my area, and my opinion on it.

I’ve been noticing something a lot more with the girls in my school district – only the girls. If you were to ask the girls in the “darker” subcultures (which, to most of the idiots enrolled in my school, means they’ve been seen walking into Hot Topic, so that makes them “Goth” or “Emo”), I can safely say that five or six out of every ten of us will say that we’re bisexual. Some of us are telling the truth – I consider myself bi, and I do find both males and females attractive. I’ve had a relationship with a girl, which is something basically unheard of at my school, in regards to a bisexual female. Apparently, only lesbians have relationships with girls. Er, no. Hi. I’m bisexual, have had a relationship with a girl, and am now dating a guy. Just because my relationship ended badly with her doesn’t mean that I may never go back to a girl ever again. I tend to fall for people’s personalities, not for their looks.

However, some of the girls in my school are straight – as in, you must have a penis to attract their attention romantically/sexually. They have no intention of ever, EVER doing anything past friendship with a girl. One girl I’ve had a conversation with told me that she doesn’t even find girls attractive… And yet she publicly calls herself bisexual, and has said that she likes both guys and girls. Why? “Because”, she says, “the guys think it’s hot”. The sad thing is? She’s not the only one.

Bisexuality seems to be a “fad” right now, and it’s making those of us who really are bisexual, bi-curious, or just trying to figure out what in the heck is going on in our heads, look fake.

I’m very open about what I consider myself. It’s made a lot of my friends uncomfortable. I’ve recently lost a best friend because she finally understood that I really am bi, and not just one of the girls who’s being chic. A lot of my female friends tell me that, while they aren’t against me, if I seriously hit on them, or try anything that they don’t want, they won’t speak to me again. On the other hand, my guy friends are into it. Most of them have told me that they think it’d be “hot” if I made out with another girl. That sort of mindset is what other girls see, and some choose to pretend to be bisexual to get the attention of the guys. That’s not the right way to go about getting it.

I’m dating a boy who isn’t like that. He’s bisexual, also, so we’re both very open with each other about that. I don’t pressure him to do anything he doesn’t want, and neither does he. I don’t see the point in pretending to have an interest in something just to get the attention of a guy. It’s pointless, and it makes those who actually have that interest look like posers.

I haven't noticed this trend in the males at my school - there's three openly bisexual boys, and one openly gay one.

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