Why is it that people are so obsessed with this? I mean, who really 100% understands love? People always say that they are afraid to die without having loved. How do they know that it's so great? I know that I'm totally guilty of wanting someone to love me but I'm only in high school. My expectations are realistic. Recently a person that I wanted to date turned me down because i don't believe in finding the person that you're destined to marry in high school. I had also previously told him when we were dating the first time that I would never love him. Why? Because my opinion is that it's for the person that you're going to marry. I knew at the time that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him. So WHY are people so freaking obsessed with dating in high school. It's like a big game. Who's dating who, who is cheating on who. I mean, it's freaking high school. Plus, if you're going to cheat on someone don't continue to date them. College I can see that people are honestly looking for a real relationship but in high school? Yes, it's true that people do marry their high school loves etc. etc. but you still have your whole life ahead of you. Why waste it on being preoccupied with which person you're going to date next? I guess this is something that's been bothering me lately because I have unwillingly been caught up in a lot of drama. How about you guys? Do you think that someone can honestly find love and the person that they're destined to be with in high school? Or do you agree with me and think it's pathetic to even try?
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I think you can find love in high school, but I am not so crazy as to think I am going to marry whoever I am dating at the time. It's a nice thought to entertain, but I also realize that I am going away to college and that people change SO MUCH from high school to college that most people will break up anyway (well those that continue dating after HS). That was an incredible run on sentence, woops.
But my point is, I think you can find love, but it isn't necessarily going to lead to marriage. It kind of goes along with my theory that you will find LOTS of boys you will fall in love with, but it's the timing that decides who you end up marrying. For me right now, my relationship is about compatibility--I have someone that I can be really good friends with on top of everything. It's not about getting married or making lifelong commitments--and we both know this.
I kind of lost my train of thought.
You can marry someone you date in high school if the two of you are committed enough.
That is very true but most of the couples I see aren't like that. I mean, there are definately a few I know that will probably wind up getting married after high school but so many relationships are messed up. It's like a competition to see who can date the most people. There's one couple I know in particular where they have cheated on each other sooo many times but they're still committed. When I asked the guy why they were still dating after all of that he answered because she was good in bed. That is no basis to build a lasting and true relationship on.
I won't say it to the person that I'm dating, because I don't think I'll truely love someone until I'm married.
I (unlike you, it seems) believe that love can come in many forms. I love all of my friends. That doesn't mean that I want to spend the rest of my life trying to make them happy, as I do with my boyfriend. They're more like an extended family for me. I can turn to them for support and help them through their hard times. So, I don't understand why you couldn't love your (ex) boyfriend, even though you weren't going to marry him.
"Yes, it's true that people do marry their high school loves etc. etc. but you still have your whole life ahead of you. Why waste it on being preoccupied with which person you're going to date next?....Do you think that someone can honestly find love and the person that they're destined to be with in high school? Or do you agree with me and think it's pathetic to even try?"
I subscribe to the belief that you can't choose who you fall in love with. I think that those who date their high school sweethearts are those that AREN'T preoccupied about who they want to date. They just roll with the punches and let the bricks fall where they may. They end up finding someone that's perfect for them and go onto marry the person. So yes, it's possible to find the person that you're destined to be with while in high school, but I don't think you should try to seek out that person.
I think I'm going to write a blog about this in the future. It's an interesting topic to write about.
~C
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