Three words you don't want to hear when you're eighteen years old.
"You're too young."
I guess in a way I get what my parents are saying when they tell me this. I am eighteen years old and thinking about marriage. It's not like my boyfriend proposed or anything, but he does talk about it.
And you may be thinking "how do you even know that he's the one?" We've been together for at least half a year and he know me better than my parents do. I look at him and I can see spending the rest of my life with him by my side. It just seems right.
Ever hear the expression, "when you know, you know". Well I know that my life wouldn't be complete without him by my side.
Our love you see wasn't a "love at first sight" thing. At least not for me. He's my friends cousin and when I met him he was "off limits" in my eyes. We met when we were in middle school but never really talked until high school.
He asked me to his Jr. Prom and the rest was history. Only after we became a couple he told me that he's had a crush on me since the day we met.
It was one of those things when you really believe the saying "sometimes the things you're looking for are right in front of your eyes."
This was our love.
I told my parents that we're probably not getting married for another 3 to 4 years. But just thinking about the "M" word is bad in their eyes.
But if I'm not "too young" to buy cigaretts or "too young" to buy porn then why can't I make my own choice to get hitched. Oh wait, that may sound a little bad, let's rephrase that, join myself to my boyfriend in holy matromony.
Technically since I am an "adult" I can do whatever I want. But this is important and wouldn't you want to have your parents support in a step such as this. Getting the "M" word is different. It's supposed to be a time for family and friends.
It wouldn't be the same without them there.
I've been back and forth on this subject for a while now. But I guess I'll wait until the time is right and who knows when that'll be. But the best things in life are worth the wait.
And I'd wait forever for him.
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It's good that you're waiting to get married, because parents are an important part of your life. And who knows, it might change in three or four years; that's a long time. People get divorced after three years, its good that you're not rushing into it.
I wish you the best of luck in your relationship and in getting your parents to approve of any future marriage you may have
I wish you the best of luck in whatevre you decide to do. Hope evryhting works out.
I think If you wait til you're 22 or 23, you should know without much/any doubt whether you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, and I think that at that point, your parents would be very willing to hear you talk about it. I don't think they think you're any less of an adult, but to them, you're still their baby. It may even scare them to see how fast you've grown up. But as time passes, you'll see their views and your own go through a transition. And it'll work out okay.
I know how you feel. I have met the right person that I want to spend forever with, but being young just sucks in this regard. Everyone says people our age are way too young to know what we want for our lives.
it's good that your planning ahead, not acting on instinct or anything crazy like that. Marriage is a huge decision because it could either make your life happier or ruin it. Just wait, you'll know if you met the right guy when your older.
Even if you are a legally an adult, you'll forever be your parent's child. Although you might not always agree, I believe its best to listen to our parents. Kind of like stupid rules that seem exist for no purpose (ie. dress code) that you have to follow. Get it?