What do you do when your significant other, be it wife, husband, boyfriend, or girlfriend, is constantly hit on? You always can feel the emotion bubling inside of you, but how do you control it and do they always want you to control it? I've run into this problem many times recently. I've had my girlfriend hit on multiple times by even her own friends. Now, I like her friends and all, but shouldn't they know that hitting on her when she has a boyfriend is going a bit far? More importantly, what am I supposed to do? I've found an answer to a few of the main questions on jealously.
Now I'm totally supportive of my girlfriend. I want her to have as many friends as possible because I know that she can be very kind to almost everyone. But sometimes some of her friends drive her nuts with what they do, and me (needless to say). I'm not talking about the occasional flirting they may do with her, because I understand that could be a big part of a friendship, (girls do it with each other often enough), but I'm talking about proposals and wedding plans being made behind her back. Attempts to make sure I don't get to take her on the dates we've already planned on going on. I'm understanding about dating another person every now and then, I've even asked her to do so because I want her to find the best guy out there (as I explained to her). But when I can see that she's had a bad day because one of her "supposed" good friends tries to manipulate her into liking him as opposed to me, I kind of have to draw a line.
Now, do not take me as a violent person, because I have never gotten into a full fledged fist fight in my life, however some of the times, I don't think I'd mind letting out some frustration at the source of it. I'm for the rights of having friends, I'm for the rights of a social life, but I get fed up with it when she, not me, is ready to blow up at her friend. I'm ready for a sit down and talk with him to let him know "Yes, that is a line. Very observant. Now don't cross it because it makes both of us mad." I'm not afraid of confrontation, and can gladly defend myself if he should lose his temper, but I don't want to ruin a friendship. That is why I keep jealousy under control, not for my sake, but because she does not need a boyfriend that beats her friends up. I'm ready to let him ruin their friendship, but am worried because it also leads down a painful road for her. I'm not her boyfriend to hurt her, heck! I'm here to help protect her, but where is the line on my end? I'm not controlling, but I do want to help her, and when she has a bad day because a stupid friend thinks it would be good to try and manipulate, yes, I REALLY want to help.
So to all the guys that think it's cool to try and get your chance with a girl when she has a boyfriend, be careful. If she does not appreciate it, back off. It will get you nothing but a pissed off boyfriend and cold shoulder from your former friend. The same goes for all girls. Jealousy is a very strong emotion and can burn more than just you. If you have a friend that you're developing feelings for, it's ok to let them know as long as you don't expect them to leave their significant other for you, because you don't want them to leave you for another. Know that there is a line, be ready for confrontation if you cross it, and do not try to do so again if the feelings were not returned the first time, because chances are that persistence will be more annoying then welcoming.
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