Most of us think we know what type of parents we want to be (if we want to be parents) simply by carrying the tradition we get from our parents and ignoring those things that we disliked in their raising us. However, there is always that barrier when you’re just not sure what to do. Most people think I’m not going to be super strict or super loose, but where is the middle point? When you have a 16-year-old teenager who wants to go out late, what do you say? Of coarse things go through your mind back to the time when you were 16 years old. If you know what types of things there are out there, you might not let your kid go out because you worry about them, on the other hand, you might say, they need to experience what I have in order to know what is going on and how to deal with things. I am personally confused and I don’t think any book can help me on raising children. I am currently not a parent and probably don’t inspire to be one for another 10 years, however, this topic interests me. I just want to know where to draw the line type of thing and if that thing called instinct exists.
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My mom kinda plays everything by ear. Depending on which one of us three brats (as we've been affectionately dubbed) wants to do what, she'll make a different decision. She just kinda learned as she was going who could be trusted to do what, who wasn't ready to do what, etcetera. I think a large part of parenting has to do with that. Yu just do the best you can, you know?
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
You really can't say where to draw the line, it differs from kid to kid. My brother and I were disciplined very differently because grounding me worked, but they have to take things away from him (like Xbox etc). Instinct always exists. When I asked last minute to "spend the night" at a friends house my parents knew that I wasn't doing that. So I didn't get to go. Parenting is different for different people, the situations can also have a huge impact. Single parenting is going to be harder when the parent is working long hours to pay bills, and they can't spend as much time with their child as they would like. Or maybe a couple may disagree n how to parent and that could be a disaster. You really can't "draw" a line.
Après la pluie le beau temps. ♥
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