When does logic and common sense get thrown out of the window?

Most children remember their child hood like yesterday. They remember every summer they spent at the beach and who all their childhood friends were. This is usually a great thing and most people do not want to forget and love reminiscing about it every time they see old childhood buddies.
I cannot remember mine and to be honest I really do not want to. My parents were divorced when my sisters and I were very young. When I was around 11 years old my mother was murdered by her ex boyfriend. My sisters and I then moved in with my father and his new wife. My father worked a lot and was never really home so my step mother was left to take care of us. This is where this story gets interesting.
We grew up in a household that was forged in hell. I say this because our step mother abused us in many ways. We felt like Cinderella as we were made to clean the house everyday and cook three meals a day and anytime that she needed a snack. We were at her beck and call every day of our lives. Whenever we did do something wrong or if she just felt like it, she punished us by giving us a cup of dawn dish liquid mixed with a little water to drink. If we did not hold it down then we would have another cup to drink. We were beaten for no reason and I even had TV remote controls thrown at my head several times for no reason. This went on for years until I got old enough to fight back a little. But even then we were still controlled and brainwashed into thinking that we were living in a fairytale and if we were to move anywhere else life would be much worse.
Once my father got hurt at work he began to stay home and see this entire abuse taking place and did nothing to stop it. He then began with his psychological abuse by saying rotten things about our mother and her side of the family. The only time that my mother’s side of the family was any good was when my father needed money.
When my mother died the attorney set up a small trust fund for us to have when each of us turned nineteen years of age. When this time rolled around my father conned his way into getting this money from us stating that we had made him a promise when we were young to give him this money. He did this to all three of us.
I tell you all this information because I know my father did not do much to actually abuse us personally I know that by keeping us in that place with her, he was pretty much doing the same to us as she was. The questions that I want to know is when does logic and common sense get thrown out of the window? Why is it that people throw out their common sense and reasoning when it comes to their partners? My father knew that we were in an abusive relationship (with his wife) why did he not get us out? Was the sex that good that he could just forget about his children and even bring another one in this world (with her)? Our we as parents just so selfish that we will not do what is right for our children if it means giving up something or someone that we like?
I do not think that I could continue in a relationship that is not good for me or my children. Does anyone else feel this way or is it just me?

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