Lets begin by saying that my parents are divorced, and I have a step brother (10) a half sister (3) and a half brother (3) because of it. I love my new families to death, but there is one very large problem. My half brother is a TERRIBLE kid.
This may sound like an exaggeration, but I really cant express what an understatment this is. My brother tells me every day "Sissy, I dont like you" and many other obscene things. His newest thing is "you are a peice of sh*t" He says the f-word more than I can count in a day and he always always gets whatever he wants, when he wants. He is still in diapers, and he quit breastfeeding about 2 weeks ago. He wont eat/ drink anything that isnt candy or soda.
This being said, let me tell you something else: my step mom has never once told Shane "no." Which is where my question comes from, how could anyone think that making spanking illegal will help solve our "abuse" problems?
My half sister is as close to an angel as possible, and my step dad spanked her, and he told her what she had done wrong to deserve the spanking. She has been potty-trained since she was 1 1/2 and she is the smartest 3-year-old Ive ever met (she can count, spell, she knows her colors...)
My dad says that Shane is a bad kid because he is a boy, which I think is complete crap. He needs to be told no every once in a while, but every time I try to mention it to my dad, he says "megan, we are the parents, you dont know anything about parenting" It upsets me because I helped raise my sister, so I know a little bit, and I know that my brother does not need EVERY little thing he wants.
I think that spanking is so so so important, especially when they are young. You dont need to hurt the child, just let them know they were wrong. It scares me to think that if this becomes a law, there could be another child just as terrible as my brother. Crime rates will go up, the social standards will go down... *shudder* Two Shanes? I dont think I would be able to handle that. What are they going to ban now, the word no?
Spanking and grounding were the normal punishments in my house. The spankings hurt, a lot, but I never felt abused by any of them, in fact I'm grateful to my mom for bringing me up the right way.
I was spanked as a child and came out fine-my harshness comes from people i know as an adult.
That is so dumb!