Have you ever gone to Starbucks and they ask if you want the skinny latte? Or asked the cashier at Dunkin Donuts for a muffin and they reply "Low fat?"? I always want to say, "What do you think I should have?" This happened to me one day and although it's not meant to be offensive, I felt self concious afterwards.
I think most people agree that once they read a fashion magazine, they feel pressure to to be skinny like the models. Maybe you don't, but I do. I wish that I could be that size 0; I'd even settle for a size 2. After trying to be "healthy" (also known as crash dieting) for a few days, I am frustrated when I realize that I can't and will never be like those models. Why can't I just accept how I look and that be good enough?
Maybe it's because when I go into a store like Abercrombie and Fitch, all the clothes are so small. I went shopping for an Easter dress the other day and decided to stop there. I was so upset when I walked in; not because the clothes weren't pretty or cheap, but because I immediately felt fat. My friend who was shopping with me had walked away for a minute and suddenly a group of small skinny girls seemed to surround me. I felt as though everyone was judging me for my appearance. I know they weren't, but it's hard to feel good about yourself when everyone is smaller than you. So I survived the next five minutes and walked out.
So I won't ever be that size 0 or even a 2, but I'm an awesome dancer. My friend's always say they want my dancer legs, since they're all muscle. I know that as long as I'm in shape, eat healthy, and feel good about myself that's all that matters.
The Skinny On Being Average
By pkubik08 - Posted on March 16th, 2008
I know exactly what you mean...I have two sisters that are smaller than me...and living with them makes me feel huge...all the time...I've been told not to worry about it b/c I'm just average...but I don't want to be just average...I want to be able to feel like I do look good...and I want others to agree...I think the pressure to be skinny is overwhelming...I've tried just about everything...take that back...I have tried everything to be skinny and it's just made things worse...why can't society just accept bigger sizes?
i know exactly how you feel. i'm not even big i'm a size 3/5 but i feel huge when i see those other tiny girls around school.
yeah I'm bigger than that and my sister who's a year younger than me is drowning in size 0...it's heartbreaking
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/kiki-88
yea feeling good about yourself is all that matters no matter what size you are.as for me i really do not care about weight.i'm not skiny and i'm not heavy, just plain average and it does not botther me at all.i don't feel the need to starve my self to be size 0...and besides in my culture it is kinda beter if you have some meat on you bones..i went back home over the summer and my aunts could not stop tallking about how skiny i am,even thou i really am not, but to them this is too skiny and they kept shoving food into my plate....but anyway my point is just love yourself, different cultures hav edifferent value it's just unfortunate that in this country most people try to live by Holywoods values....
yes...and you're lucky that it is acceptable in your culture...personally I don't see why anyone would want a girl that looks like a walking skeleton and eats a piece of lettuce for dinner only to throw it up...but unfortunately that's how our culture is and that's the pressure I feel
I completely agree. I go shopping with my sister, a size 00 (don't ask me how she eats and maintains that, I have no idea), and it is ridiculous how self-conscious I feel when I'm with her. I've adopted the mentality that as long as you are happy and healthy, you are fine.
Annalyce
It enraged me so much to go into stores like Abercrombie and Fitch that I stopped going in. I am 22 years old and a size 8/10. I am 5'9 and 160 lbs. I am in no way, shape, or form overweight for my height. In fact, I am average or LESS for my height. And yet, I am "too big" for some of these stores. How can I be an XL in American Eagle? What about all the other women/girls who are bigger than me? I'm lean and athletic from years of sports. Yeah, I might have a bit of a ghetto booty, but it makes up for my smaller chest. I'm healthy and as long as I stay that way I see nothing to change. Its so frustrating to me to go into these stores because I LOVE my body just the way it is. Why can't stores love it too?!?!!
I have realized that I wear different sizes in different brands of clothing. Some women's clothing is made for really skinny women where I would have to get like a size XL even though i am not huge. In some clothing that runs larger I can wear as small as a medium because I have rather big hips. Try to be happy with your body. I have met alot of skinny girls that hate it so much and wish they could be larger and gain weight but they just can't. I believe as long as someone is toned, eats healthy, and gets good exercise that they should be happy. I have gotten down to 120lbs and I am 5'1 but I am built strange. I have a big rib cage, hips and boobs but I wear a size 4 1/2 in girls shoes and have never been in anything smaller than a size 7 and that was when i had an eating disorder. I look best with more weight ( healthy weight around 128 or maybe higher i'm still working on it) other wise since my rib cage is so large and so are my hips I look really scary. But be yourself and be happy with your body because you have to live with it as long as you are alive so you might as well get used to it lol.
Something people should know about:
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
definitely agreed about the clothing sizes deal...I'm short too and built oddly as well...and I've done everything to try to lose weight but I just can't...at the same time my sister can't put any on...and she's tried...I'm learning that I can just be happy with my self and the size I am..but it's hard when you get looks of scrutiny all the time...but people don't realize how hard I work...I was a cheerleader for 6 years so my legs were really muscular...I tried to stop exercising to get rid of the muscle and then exercising to lose weight in my legs...but it all just turned back to muscle... I just wish other people could appreciate different kinds of bodies as much as I do
I work for Starbucks and I am so embarrassed by the skinny latte thing. Before we adopted it, customers would come in and order it and was proud to say that 'skinny' wasn't a part of our lingo and we would not recognize it. You would have to say sugar-free and nonfat or skim. Then we adopted the new policy... in the beginning I refused to use it, still calling the drinks by the old system. My coworkers and I would make fun of it by calling it an anorexic latte. *sigh* But sadly, corporations brainwash, and I have gotten used to calling drinks as skinny. But I still loathe the size 0 girls who come in and order it (we do get anorexic customers, and I give them 2% milk) and I still call it as nonfat and sugar free if it has whipped cream.
Not everyone who is a size 0 is anorexic. Some people are just naturally that skinny. You can't always really tell just by looking at someone if they're anorexic.
Just like you can't tell just by looking at someone if they're ordering skim milk because they think they need to, or if they're ordering it because they're allergic to milk fat. Or because it makes a thicker foam when frothed and they like it better. You really should just give the customers what they ordered.
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I work for Starbucks and I am so embarrassed by the skinny latte thing. Before we adopted it, customers would come in and order it and was proud to say that 'skinny' wasn't a part of our lingo and we would not recognize it. You would have to say sugar-free and nonfat or skim. Then we adopted the new policy... in the beginning I refused to use it, still calling the drinks by the old system. My coworkers and I would make fun of it by calling it an anorexic latte. *sigh* But sadly, corporations brainwash, and I have gotten used to calling drinks as skinny. But I still loathe the size 0 girls who come in and order it (we do get anorexic customers, and I give them 2% milk) and I still call it as nonfat and sugar free if it has whipped cream.
I work for Starbucks and I am so embarrassed by the skinny latte thing. Before we adopted it, customers would come in and order it and was proud to say that 'skinny' wasn't a part of our lingo and we would not recognize it. You would have to say sugar-free and nonfat or skim. Then we adopted the new policy... in the beginning I refused to use it, still calling the drinks by the old system. My coworkers and I would make fun of it by calling it an anorexic latte. *sigh* But sadly, corporations brainwash, and I have gotten used to calling drinks as skinny. But I still loathe the size 0 girls who come in and order it (we do get anorexic customers, and I give them 2% milk) and I still call it as nonfat and sugar free if it has whipped cream.