I was just wondering is the institution of marriage a reality?
Can two people live together "happily ever after", until "death us do part" while remaining totally faithful? Is this REALLY possible to for the rest of your life only having sex with one person? Especially when there are so many other women and men availiable.
When I think about how I was raised, marriage seemed more respected. No matter what a married couple went through, they stayed together. It was like an iron clad contract and it was no terminating for any reason. I think this is good and bad.
Good because people will not try to run at the first sign of trouble.
Bad because what if one (or both) spouse abuses the other either mentally or physically?
Also growing up I remember seeing movies with happy married couples. I remember these super romantic scenes of passionate kissing, love and lovemaking. It was as if once you get married the fireworks begin. It is made for me to believe that after you say "I do" that everything falls in place. You have waited all your life and here is your soulmate. No one else will ever do and your eyes are only for her/him.
But it just isn't that way all the time, is it?
Could it be once a couple is married there is not as much effort put into the relationship anymore? Could it be once married one spouse (or both) feel that maybe the person they married are not the one? Could it be that there are (what I call) "marriage destroyers" that prey on married men/women that loves the challenge of sleeping with married people? Could it be the mentality of wanting your cake and eat it too?
Or is it a simple as I stated earlier? Marriage is not a realistic thing?
i think that when a person says an "i do" it is that person's promise to God and their spouse that he/she will always be there to work out the problems. No one believes that there is not going to be any problems the second you get married. It is just a promise that they will love each other forever!
Some people aren't ready for marriage when they do get married and some people don't know how to be commited to that one person and they will probably never be able to be commited to that one person.Of course, you will get a temptation to be with another person from time to time but that's only being human. Married or not. You must be able to have some type of control. Most cheating spouses cheat so many times because so many other people cheat and that makes them feel less guilty. In my opinion, if people are not going to take marriage seriously, then why bother to get married if you doing everything that a married person should not do. These married people should just file for a divorce because each time they cheat, they are only hurting their spouse.
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Your title sprung up a lot of thoughts in me. I've always had that stereotype that once you're married, you're the happiest person on the planet and it will all work out and that person is the one for you. But as I have grown, I have seen many relationships fall apart. Is marriage a reality? I feel that its a dream. Hopefully one that comes true.
I am spending the weekend with my brother who is recovering from his cheating wife. This is a couple I never expected to break up. I know there are always two sides to a story, but in this story, she didn't give him a clue that there was anything wrong. He never had a chance to work it out with her. That seems to me to be the biggest betrayal...making decisions about the couple without consulting your partner.
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It's becoming more and more rare, but I have seen it. I am not sure what societal changed caused the increase in divorce, or perhaps there was no shift, just the fact that divorce is now simply more accepted than it had been in the past. I know of a few couples who are truly soul mates. Of course, they have their disagreements, but they always seem to work it out. Looking at these couples gives me hope that it is possible.