My Parents when i was at the age of like 4 went through a divorce. I think that is one of many hard things that a lot of both young and older kids face in today's society. It is amazing as to how many kids say that their parents are divorced. Most kids that you talk to anymore come from a broken family. It is intresting though because different people go through the divore differently. Some kids come out of the divorce being strong and better people than what they might have been if their parents had chosen to stay together. Other people, looking at it from the other view, are messed up for the rest of their life and end up having all these problems and social issues and what not. Is divorce really that hard to go through? For me it was not that bad, it happened when i was little so i kind of just grew up around having divorced parents so i saw it as being natural, like that was the way that things were supposed to be. It amazes me though that it should not be like that at all. A lot of people say that you cant be happy if your parents are not together. I think that is completly wrong, i understand why my parents cant be together and i accept that fact and i lead a very good life. I guess it depends on your personality as to how you coupe with different things or should i say hardships in your life. I have come to the place in my life where i can talk about it openly and not feel hurt inside, which has actually come to benefit many other people. I have talked a numerous amount of my friends through the same expirence and we have all turned out to be great people. so from my conclusion just because i may have a bit of a messed up home situation, i still have just as good of a life as those that still have parents that are together.
Divorced parents
By coolgirl45 - Posted on April 8th, 2008
I think its all about the parents still being 100% there for their kids throughout the divorce.
I think the older you are the harder the Divorce is. But than again, it all depends on the parents. My parents were divorced when I was 5, and I understood a little, but not much. It was the years of them never getting a long, moving back and forth between two homes, and constanly hearing the one parent talk nothing but trash about the other parent. Of course, I think I am a good person, I just try to learn from it. Some people dont know how to accept it, and others just dont know how to cope with the arguing, or the moving around. Like Erinv24 said, it all depends on how much the parents are in it for the kids. I think if my parents would have thought a little more about me, than revenge, things would have worked out a lot better, lol!
It's interesting that you still, in there somewhere, have the idea that because it wasn't hard for you, it shouldn't be that hard for everyone else. My parents divorced when I was 10. Probably most of my issues with it have to do with the fact that my mom was emotionally abusive, and she tended to lean on me for support as she would a husband or partner if she were married. The fact that my parents are divorced isn't so bad, but I do take commitment a lot more seriously. I find it difficult to trust people and to have long term (or any, for that matter) romantic relationships because of my fear of uncertainty in people. The divorce process wasn't so difficult, but the way my mom often treated it (talking poorly about my dad, blaming my dad, etc.) made it harder. So really, it does depend on your age, and it does depend on the parents, and somewhat it does depend on the child, too. I believe it has made me a stronger and even more independent person in some ways, but it has also weakened me in other areas of life. It is just a thing, though, that I am having to work through - everyone has a story, everyone has baggage.
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I personally felt betrayed when my dad divorced my mom. We were walking in with number one dad balloons and everything and my mom had the mail. She opened it and there was a letter saying that my dad had filed for divorce and custody of me and my brother. It was terrible. I had no idea how to react and was terrified everytime i was around him that he wanted to keep me from my mother. Still from this day I haven't truly forgave him. I spent my whole younger childhood shuffling back and forth between homes and listening to them yell with each other, hang up, and call back and do it again. I had to have seperate birthdays, holidays, and any special event of mine was extremely akward for me. Yes, they were never happy and fought alot while married, but it didnt stop because they didnt live together. My dad changed the locks and I had to live without any of my belongings for almost a year. This has changed who I have turned out to be alot. I am so bitter about many things. But it made me become in touch with reality. My dad is a surgeon and worshiped throughout town. It makes me sick. Although I am becoming more accepting, I dont know that I will ever get over it. Or that I need to.