I'm currently in a pretty committed relationship.
We have been together for about 17 months.
I am 17 years old.
I'm not trying to say that because I am seventeen that I am incapable of being able to love my boyfriend, I just grown skeptical of love. Why? I've been in a few relationships in my time--no, I haven't been around the block, but I've dated enough boys to be able to judge my feelings and to be able to tell if I really am serious about this current boy. Only once before did I really think I was in love. My first relationship. Now that I think about it, and looking back, I was just a naiive 15 year old girl who opened herself up a little too much for that boy. We didn't really do much, only kissed once, the relationship was majorly emotional and connected in a different way. We never did anything sexual, thank god, and like I said had only kissed once. Our relationship consisted of talking on the phone well into the night and seeing each other about twice a month. I loved him, but not the way I thought I had back then.
I've had 3 serious relationships.
That first one.
My 3rd relationship with a boy named James. He was a great kid, but it just didn't work out. I didn't like him enough, I was crazy about the kid I'm with now--
Matt.
I really am just god--head over heels for him. He makes this thing we walk on called Earth stop spinning. :] The clock stops tick tocking and my heart starts beat beating a whole lot faster.
I have a feeling I feel for him much stronger than he does for me. I don't have a problem with that. We're 17 and I don't expect too much from boys right now because--simply that we're 17. (Well, he's 18 now.)
I'm very aware of the fact that one day in the future, whether this day is near or not, that someone could easily walk in and change everything.
Neither of us have too simple of lives and we're here for each other a lot and we depend on each other a lot. I believe this causes some strain however, I think it strengthens our feelings for each other slightly too.
Am I wrong when I say that we shouldn't worry ourselves with love right now?
I told him back on our anniversary this:
"we're 17. we're young. one day someone could come along and sweep either you or me off of our feet and completely change the world as we know it. we don't know. we can't know until it happens. if we were really meant to be, then as time passes, we'll grow closer and closer and we'll fall in love--with each other. if we're still together in 10 years and in love...then we'll know it was meant to be."
it's quite possible i'm in love at 17...
isn't it?
I am a firm believer in young love. I feel as though it doesn't matter what age you are as long as you know what your feelings are. I was in that situation last year. Unfourtanatly we broke up but that didn't mean we were not in love. We grew apart. To this day we are still good friends because of the love we share for each other.
you cannot REALLY love until you know the extent of what you can GIVE......if you cannot give, then you dont really love
I can definitely relate, b/c I met my current "boyfriend" (for lack of a better word) in 7th grade. Didn't fall in love with him until 5 years into our friendship. He'd been in love with me the whole time. From my experience (which is about as much as yours, since i'm only 18), love starts as a feeling and becomes a devotion. Eventually, the feelings fade, though they never really disappear altogether, and the only thing that keeps two people together is a commitment to do so.
"This is how I choose to live: as if I'm jumping off a cliff, knowing that You'll save me, knowing that You'll save me." -Relient K
"He is no fool who chooses to lose that which he cannot keep in order to gain that which he cannot lose." -Jim Elliot
You are the only person who can tell whether or not you're in love. People can tell you what they think love is, but until you experience it for yourself, you never really know. I was also in a serious relationship with someone at the age of 17, I was with him from age 14-18. I really loved him and did for a long time after we broke up, but now at the age of 22, I hardly even think of him (we've been broken up for 4 years). I believe it is absolutely possible to fall in love with someone at a young age, my grandmother married at 17 and my mother at 19 because they were in love with my grandfather and father respectively. When I was with my boyfriend, I thought I was going to get married at an early age as well.
However, I also think that there are many different types of love, and that your perspective of love changes over your lifetime and with your view of yourself. I wish you and your significant other the very best, but you should always have your definition of love in mind. If your relationship no longer fits that definition, don't be afraid to move on and find someone who will fulfill your personal needs.
I believe you can fall in love at an early age. of course b/c only you can decide for yourself. no one else can tell you how you feel. but just give it time. becuase you will keep finding as time goes on a new love and feeling you never had or thought you could have had before. as you get older you will expierience new things. but of course you can definitly be in love.