I believe I was in 9th grade (that's about four years ago) when my Aunt told me, "When you graduate, you get to pick the vacation. Even if it's to another country." It's nice to have an Aunt and Uncle who make a good living and can afford to take themselves (and me) on vacation. I however, am very modest. I didn't want to pick a vacation because I hate the idea of spending too much money. My Aunt added later, "We'll even take you on a cruise if you don't get pregnant before graduation!"
Whoa. Hold it there, what did you say? That's right, the P word. To the most of you who know me already, you'd understand how ludicrous this statement is. Not only have I never had a steady boyfriend...or any boyfriend for that matter, but I have firm beliefs against drug use, smoking, and underage sex. So yeah, this statement shocked me for sure.
I called my Aunt out on that one, saying, "Who do you think I am?" Her response wasn't satisfying enough.
It appears that the teen image today is so bad that any of us could be considered "one of the bad apples". This bothers me, mostly because I'm what you may call a "goody-two-shoes". It's a lame phrase that announces I have respect for myself and my health.
This wasn't the only incident in which someone inadvertantly accused me of behavior I don't do. At my father's store, a customer from out-of-town just got talking with me. She was wondering what there was to do in the area. I told her about the only local attraction, a family arcade/bowling center that has since closed. I don't remember who said it, but drug use was mentioned, and suddenly she goes, "So you use drugs too?" I got mad right away, and cooly told her I don't do drugs. She gave a sly smile and said, "Oh really?"
In fourth grade, a rumor was spread around about me and my guy friend having sex. Similar rumors would get started about other people too, but nobody ever seemed to understand how untruthful rumors could be.
I was being punished with accusations because of today's culture. I don't do drugs, yet some random lady gave me a knowing smile and said she didn't believe me. My own family seemed to indicate that I could hardly restrain myself before graduation. These wouldn't be the only incidents, but you've gotten the idea by now.
How fair is it to judge others on the basis of a culture gone wrong? I am not a pregnant teen or a drug abuser, yet I must watch what I say and do because someone may assume I'm something I'm not. I'm sure this will continue to happen for years to come, as more oblivious people say things that make me feel ashamed--even though I'm undeserving of it. I can only hope that times will change, the crazy teens of today will level out, and a tiny bit of sanity will reign in the future. I hope.
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You know, all these people go on and on about "kids these days" and how they're so disrespectful and do drugs and this, that, and the other. To that, I have one thing to say:
Who's ultimately responsible for their behavior? Who was it that was supposed to raise them?
Oh, that's right....The same idiots that are now complaining...
I am treated as evil by people who claim that they are being oppressed because they are not allowed to force me to practice what they do. ~D. Dale Gulledge
Exactly! Our parents are the ones who raise/educate/program their kids. Kids learn from them first!
Very good point. If this generation is so bad, it's only because the previous generation taught us to be this way!
Then again, that won't stop the childless adults from complaining, but oh well. We'll suffice with a little acceptance for now.
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I agree with your blog and the statement dragonwolf said. People want to say every teenager goes through "phases." This statement isn't true either. I never ever thought about having sex even when I've had about 8 boyfriends. I was always taught that guys only think of that and that sex should be shared with someone you love. My mom used scare tactics on me and it worked very good.
I also didn't even learn about sex until I was 12 years old. I think parents need to be there for their children and supervise them. Give them hugs and love and support them. I choose to wait until I was 18 and until I had found the "right" person. If it is not the right person (been together 3 years) then I will wait until I marry someone seriously.
Sex really isn't the greatest thing and to do it foolishly and get pregnant?
I also hate how people would always believe that my mom put me on birthcontrol so I could have sex. NO because my cycles are screwed up and I turn into a psyco b*h. People will still get it in their head that I was on birthcontrol so I wouldn't get pregnant. Unless some alien impregnanted me that would have never happened.
Yes I used to do pot and pills but I had serious emotional issues
I really hope that there is hope! If the parents would just get their sh*t together and place good morals into a child then they will be fine. I am sorry you had to go through all of those harsh stereotypes.
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It's good you found the right person then! I seriously can't understand people who think you have to go to bed with every boyfriend you've ever had. I mean, where's the time to get to know the person? People are strange.
I've heard about the birth control stereotypes. A couple of my friends had to be on birth control because of issues with their time of the month. Whenever one of them would slip that they're on it, they'd immediately have to explain it in order to not be judged. Sucks that people are so very ignorant, though I only learned a couple years ago that birth control could be used for more than one reason.
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The stigma around birth control is silly. Dermatologists routinely put women on birth control to keep their skin clear. Doctors prescribe it for all kinds of reasons! But because it's called "birth control" rather than "hormone therapy," everyone assumes the most salacious motivation. It's just like everything else in the court of public opinion, though-- guilty until proven innocent.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
There's a thought. Let's change the name of it and call it "hormone therapy". Then people wouldn't be so quick to assume. You know what they say about people who assume...
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People can't talk. I get tired of the older generation saying that our generation is "fast" Yes the majority of us are but not the minority of us. Then if you make one mistake you are the worst apple of the bunch.
It's true. And because there are some bad apples out there, we "good kids" have to try even harder to prove ourselves.
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