"Chicks before dicks."
"Bros before hoes."
Does this sound familiar to you? Of course friends are very important, but when they cross the
line between you and your love/sex interest, what then? By "cross the line," I mean a violation
between the friendship you have with them. Your friend knows how you feel towards this certain
person but they still flirt with them. Are they still considered a friend? I would have to say I
disagree with the cliches that we've grown so accustomed to hearing. Reason I brought this up
was because I was just thinking about one of my co-workers whom I've grown fairly close to these
last couple of years. She has a boyfriend and they have a 1yr old son together. She's still
immature and wild but I gave her the benefit of the doubt to know when to act out and when not
to. After going out with her this one night, I found out that I wouldn't be able to trust her if she
were alone with my boyfriend (assuming I have one). I saw a guy that I knew and was attracted
to. I pointed him out to her and she agreed that he was attractive.
Towards the end of the night, the guy and his friend was hanging out with us. But my friend had
a little bit to drink and was flirting with him like crazy. Long story short, it seemed like she was
trying to hook up with him and I didn't try to cockblock. I just sat back, observed, and understood.
I didn't say much to her even though I was disappointed. Disappointed at the fact that she couldn't
control herself. She thought it was all fun and games, which it was, but it gave me another
perspective on her. It definitely changed my trust. With friendship comes trust. What happens
when that trust has been altered? I guess I would still consider her my friend, but from a distance;
more towards being an aquaintance. Seeing her under the influence and letting loose, made me
uncomfortable. Then there's another saying, "girls who have the same guy interests cannot be
friends" because it gives possibilities of conflicts and backstabbing. Again, altering trust. I agree
with this saying due to personal experience. In my opinion, its hard for girls to get along with each
other without the whole competitve mentality.
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When we are talking about true friendship, then there shouldn't be any interference (boys, parents etc). There has to be only trust and confidence. That's why it's really hard to find a 'best friend'. Where there is the 'competitive mentality' you've mention, then we can't talk about friends anymore, but (as you said) about aquintances.
your title reminds me of chain emails that i used to get in high school
Yeah, keep this kind of thing in your myspace.
This can become a rough topic because of people's desires. I think friends should come first but things can change quickly. You can't control people's feelings.