It is a long blog but the summary of the whole story is that a white woman wrote a letter to a black magazine Sister2Sister. In her letter she expressed how black women were jealous of her because she is with a sucessful black guy and the reason why the black women are losing their men is because they don't treat their men right.
After the magazine was published, a black man expressed his reason of why black men choose white women. Some of his reasons were that white women were easier, black women are too strong and independent for some guys to handle, and some other interesting points.
Being a black woman, I agree with both of their views. I do believe that SOME white women are much more easier than SOME black women but I do think that the men that date white women want to have power over them. Looking at black men as a whole in the United States, although there are sucessful men in the coporate world, I think being able to control their household also is a means for them to feel better.
I know that this doesn't apply to all interacial relationships but it does cover some of them. There are white women who are strong and independent. My point of view I think as long as both people in the ralationship are happy, it doesn't matter what the "race" is of the relationship. Let me know what you think.
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I believe in interracial dating.I see no colors between people.:-)
~<3~Love and be loved!~<3~
I don't think it should have anything to do with who is "easier" or who makes them feel more "powerful." It should be about feelings. End of story.
People are just people all the same, yet all individuals. Just try not to Date anyone with More Issues than yourself and you should be set!
For interracial dating, but the whole complaint to the magazine article seems like it's based on generalizations of a race, which is weird.
I am an interracial relationship and both of us are successful. And neither one of us takes any crap from the other. Both of us are extremely strong minded, strong willed, and intellectual which makes us successful as a couple and as people. We compliment each other. I see beauty in all colors, ages, body types and beliefs. I think people are beautiful because they are unique. Cookie cutter isn't interesting and neither is stereotyping.
I really don't think race should have anything to do with relationships. It should be about love and respect between two people and that is it.
as someone who is trying to understand the effects of privilege on interpersonal relationships I think about this issue often. I am a white feminist who condsiders herself as an antiracist, and they way bi see it is that since white woman are granted racial privilege but not gender privilege they do not consider their oppression (since they are in fact privileged, while black women who are experiance neither racial or gender privilege are stronger because they are more aware. of course this does not apply in all cases. but in terms of general trends (which are often unfair as their are many strong white women, as well as weak black women (though i don't no a single woman of color who hasn't blown me away with her incredible amounts of personal strength). Also since black men experiance gender privilege but not racial privilege and racial privilege is more apparent in our society than gender privilege they might seek to be the more dominant in the relationship, but this is something that i have found of all men, (which is why i as a heterosexual have chosen to become celibate for the time being). I guess my point is that power dynamics are very complicated and you bring up a good point.
I personally have no problem with interracial relationships, but I really think the reason why some people move out of their racial boundaries, is because they are bored, and possibly to make others within their racial groups jealous out of attention.
Bored and need attention? Uh, no. That's insane. It couldn't possibly be because they met someone they were interested in and attracted to?
~Marie
the person you are responding to said SOME. -_-
It doesn't matter what a person's racial background is. If the relationship works, it works, if not, move on. People choose to be with someone of a different race for different reasons. People can be weak or strong and that doesn't have to do with race, it has to do with the individual.
well, what happened to the link??? I would really like to see that...anyways, with interracial relationships, I don't care if anybody is in them, but me personally, I'm not going to give up on my black men. If I did meet somebody of another race who was worth my time, then I would consider dating them, but it hasn't come up in my case. When I was in high school all the white dudes that would date a black female would only date the light skinned ones with "pretty" hair. But to the ones who are in those relationships, best of luck.
To the woman who wrote this article, you'r suppose to fuck apes, not white woman.
Forgive me, i meant to say your suppose to fuck apes, not white men.
Personally, for me it doesn't matter whether the boy is black or white. The thing that does really matter is his personality and his outlook on life. But believe me, black guys are very sexy ;-)
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I think that black men date women because white women don't have backbones. The're easy to get into bed and they do what they are told without questions. When black men want total control of the relationship and wants to cheat without ever being caught they date white women. I know several black men that date white women for that reason. And thats the truth.
what a horrid generalization! white women do to have backbones! maybe some are wimpy, but certainly not all!
the white lady seemed angry, but that black guy responded very well! one of the best comebacks!
but anyways... i could care less what color you are, (the babies of interracial relationships come out really cute, tho)
~love~
Reading this I find myself wondering how many of the negative comments where posted by people who actually have any kind of experience with people outside their own race group. Generally these kind of people have none or very little - amounting to almost none.
Generally ignorant people find their own race to be in some form supreme to others. A lot of races have this problem. They get taught from childhood, dont mix, dont date "those" people. Those people are different from us, they dont understand us, they are not like us, bla bla bla bla..... It caries on forever..... Off course races are different, thats the whole beauty about it. Its the blending of the differences that makes it so beautiful.
Multi racial relationships is interesting and beautiful. Their strength lies in their differences, their beauty in their diversity. To truly understand this one has to know.
Dont judge from ignorance....... Ignorance and stupidity go closely together - both have a severe lack of intellect associated with it.
From A White Guy partnering a Indian Beauty
Personally for me.. people say " I dont see color. It's just a person." I feel the same way except I'm a white women and I don't date white men. I don't discriminate, it's just that at the time when I was starting to really like boys/men and dating, I was around a lot of other men besides white men. I went to a predominantly black highschool and I started to like black guys because they were the first guys that paid attention to me. The white boys in my school recognized me, but I got the attention that I wanted from the black men. Since highschool, I have always had a preference for black men. When I was in middle school, I wasn't that kind of girl that guys liked. When I got to highschool, I found that black men liked what I had to offer. (no, I'm not refering to anything sexual..I was only 14). I honestly think I would be a totally different person if I didn't go to the highschool I went to. I think if I went to a "white"highschool, I would not have been as successful and confident as I am in dating.
I wouldn't generalize all interracial relationships, but being a divorced from an interracial marriage, control was the primary problem that ended us as a couple.
There are so many "grey areas" for interracial couples to struggle with that most couples don't have have to stress about.
I'd hate to think that all black men are out to control their ladies or that they are somehow more controlling than white men.
I was the more passive white counterpart in the relationship, so I was part of the problem as well. He needed to kick back and have a little more trust, and I needed to draw the line and stand up for myself more often. Sometiimes this reversed, and I was able to control, and he had to lick my boots or leave.
I think this whole thing had alot less to do with race and more to do with control issues. His heart was blind, so was mine. People focus too much on the outward color contrast. The same thing would've propably happened with a blue guy.