Don't you hate starting a new job where you don't know anything? But hey, the work at the end becomes fun and you love your job. But what happens when a manager is, well, bad at managing?
I've had 2 jobs with really bad managers, one (my first) was the worst. This new job I have, it's fun and I love it. But... one of my managers is not so good. He manages well, and does a good job... but he doesn't lead well.
I spent a short time in AJROTC, but I learned a lot. The biggest thing is this: if you want someone below you to act a certain way, you must act that way and be a god role-model. In the same sense, if you act a way you don't like your subordinates to act, you shouldn't get mad at them. If you do, that's just bad leadership.
That's what this manager is like, I have found. He's a joker, and goofs around quite a bit. Honestly, I can never really tell when he's being honest or joking. That's not so bad, he gets work done and encourages us the employees. BUT, I said one thing meant to be a joke, and he became quite mad at me. He snapped his finger and looked as though I had just cut him down. Honestly, it was a joke, and I smiled! He then, after ringing up customers, told me, "You don't know me well enough to talk to me like that."
Wait a second... I agree to this, i don't know him well enough, it's only my first week on the job. But in the same context, he doesn't know me well enough to joke around with me the way he does. I watch how he acts, and I see what he likes. So I do the jobs that will get me on his good side, and I joke around a bit to make the environment fun and on the same page. So why was I "yelled" at? Why does he not get mad at the other new girl?
Right, because she's been working there ONE week longer than me and is TWO years older than me. I'm not even allowed to do what she does. I'm the lackey, the youngster, the newbie. It doesn't make sense. She's just as new as I am. I have done EVERYTHING they've asked me to do, and when I show just one slight wrong doing, I'm talked to. This manager won't let me, on down time (when we have no customers really) to steam milk for practice. Even though I have already HAD a job where I learned how to steam milk and make expresso shots. But the other girl is allowed? No, not fair. Not good leadership or managing right there.
Am I going to talk to him? No, what good would that do? He'd think I'm being arrogant and telling him what to do. On the contrary, I'm telling him to tell ME what to do! I'm learning and I want to do a good job. I want to be liked. So, LEAD ME the way you want me to act, and I'll do it! I had to learn this in ROTC by being led AND by leading.
I want to be given the same chance that the other new girl is given. I want to learn a new skill that this job will teach me. But I can't learn that skill unless I'm taught and given time to practice. I spent my last two work days doing nothing but cleaning out coffee bins. People were asking me why I was doing this. I said, "Because he asked me to." I was doing it so he'd like me as a worker too. I work hard, I learn fast, and I love challenges. My other manager knows this and is really nice (he's the one who hired me). This other one, well, I guess he just doesn't know me...
SO STOP LETTING ME FOLLOW YOU IN THE WRONG WAY!!!
That's the work force, I guess. Just a huge game of follow the leader... and reading minds...
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I was in higher management with a huge corporation and I left after a year when they didn't get rid of ex-con stealing managers that never could get it right.
Its fustrating to work under bad management. Ive done it before and it just makes the work place stressful and brings alot of tension. It's hard to know where to draw the line. One of my managers would change our scheduals all the time and not tell us. I had to go in and check all the time to make sure my hours were still the same so I didnt show up at the wrong time. He woundnt fire any of the bad employees because he didnt like conflict. They would slack off, be rude to customers, and steal he didnt terminate them because he didnt want to deal with it. I finaly decided to leave because it was not a good situation.
was horrible. I was told to do EVERYTHING, and I literally mean everything. But when I stopped doing something they had told me to do 1 min ago to do something they just told me to do, I was yelled at. I was yelled at for taking initiative. It made me mad.
I like this job now, but I just don't get it. He shouldn't have gotten mad at me. He says things he shouldn't a lot. Talks about car racing, illegal car racing, and other crap. I dunno... I just wish I had the respect I give them. But whatever...
And this same progeny of evils comes from our debate, from our dissension; We are their parents and original. -- A Midsummer Night's Dream Act II, Scene I, Lines 115-117
where did you work before? Mind sharing?
But it was a new store, or location. The manager sucked. Was almost never there, avoided me after like 3 months of working there... just horrible.
I'm okay today. HA, that manager wasn't there the nice one was. HE LET ME STEAM Yes! Anywho, bed time. NIght
And this same progeny of evils comes from our debate, from our dissension; We are their parents and original. -- A Midsummer Night's Dream Act II, Scene I, Lines 115-117