"long distance relationships are stupid" (quoted by me practically my whole life)
i am now dating a guy about 4 hrs away.
ironic, huh?
but even with my relationship status i am still skeptical.
i mean how do these things work? i worked at a summer camp this summer, made a ton of friends, and met a guy ("A GUY"). he invited me to his hometown after the summer ended but due to hurricanes ended up driving to mine. he asked my dad to date me, and left for his senior year of college the next day. i am a sophomore in college. we talk with excitement of his graduation as if it will somehow allow us to spend more time together- but his house is 4 hours in the opposite direction. we talk on the phone an hour a night about four or five times a week (and of course facebook and myspace), but other than that we live seperate lives.
so i ask- what is the point? this guy is great, he's everything that would be perfect for me. he adores me. but what is the point of a relationship that is well, so distant? all i can hope is that in time it will grow on me. i have contemplated a break-up before it gets too serious, but everytime we talk i realize how amazing he is. i think i just need to realize what i have is too great to blow
but who doesnt love a great internal battle.
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It's worth it if you can see yourself ending up with him for the long run. When you both complete college you could live in the same area. Or after he graduates he can move by where you go to college. You never know how wonderfully things can end up.
Maybe 2 and a half hours isn't considered long distance, but that's how it was for me and my boyfriend last year. He was at college and I was (and still am) in high school. We once went a month without seeing each other at all. My mother wouldn't let me drive to see him because she was convinced I would die if I drove on the interstate. However, when we did see each other, it was awesome because of the time apart. Now he's only about 45 minutes away but due to both our schedules, I'm lucky if we see each other once a week. But we've been dating for a little over two years.
Same here... I'm 2 and a half to 3 hours away from my girlfriend when I'm at school and sometimes I go a month without seeing her. (except for right now since I'm still home on summer break). And her parents wouldn't let her drive all the way up there. But it did work out for us for a whole year. (and still going)
It all depends on you. If you can see this relationship going somewhere and you really want to hang in there then stay with him. It is obviously going to be hard, but it could work. I might end up having a long distance relationship with my boyfriend once I get to college, but I totally think it is worth it. So really.. its up to you.
no matter what the distance, everything will somehow work out
i like a guy "a guy too" who lives in germany and i am stuck here ih philly
away from him and for me to see him is a plane ride that costs about 600 dollars at the least and i will not give up until i know i can nt be with him, if you want to know the details, ask me, i am also a sophomore and he is 21 and in the german education system
"Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right."
Snap... I beat out everyone except you. My boyfriend lives 4 hours away... by plane. A good couple days drive. Kinda difficult to see each other, especially since he can't fly or drive on Friday nights or Saturdays.
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that me and him are at the stage of a relationship where we know that we like each other but because of family obligations and our age we are going to do absolutely nothing except keep in touch with each other and sometimes he is so immature let me tell you, he's 21 and i am 20, and i feel like i must be his mother or something....
stupid guy, i love mature people but how did i fall for him?
actually i know the answer to that and that is because he is my complete opposite and i have known him since i was in diapers because he is a close family friend and
well, lets say if i decide he is the ONE one, i am screwed because he belongs to a group of muslims that is different from me and my family's and not only that, his whole family is in germany while am i really wiliing to leave my own family behind. I have this feeling that this is it and if it isn't then i really don't want anyone else.
"Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right."
While not seeing him is hard, what would be harder for me is not having him in my life, at all.
Some things are well worth the wait. The solution is simple: One of you has to move. Luckily, it's only 4 hours. Even if you both decide to move to the center point, you're still within reasonable driving distance to travel 'home' and visit family and friends.
This situation is utterly workable, it will just require effort.
And if he's amazing as you say, then DON'T let him go.
Seriously. How often do you meet someone that you really think is amazing?