For as long as I can remember, it has just been the three of us; my mom, my sister, and me. Dad died when I was in third grade, but even before that he was never there. Out drug dealing, robbing cab drivers, always chasing his next high. Momma never went to college and daddy, like i said wasn't the best example, so growing up had its bumps, but I wouldn't change it for the world. People always assume that because I live with a single parent that my sister and I cry ourselves to sleep at night, that college isn't even a dream for us, that because our family has had its "addictive" pasts that we are going to turn out the same way. I can't even tell you how many times people have doubted me or even assumed that I won't be able to handle the "real world" on my own and I will just end up resorting to drugs and alcohol, just like my father. In all reality, living with just my mom for years has taught me so much and honestly, I have seen more of the "real world" than most students my age have seen. I'm making my future, college isn't going to be just a "dream" for me because I live with a single parent, it's going to be a reality and doubting me just makes me that much stronger. Ha, all i have to say is baby, the apple does fall far from the tree.
The Apple Does Fall Far From the Tree.
By just_britnee - Posted on March 2nd, 2008
I really think that people often assume children will turn out like their parents, when really they are their own unique people. Yeah for you not going down the same path as your father and making something for yourself!
Psychology wise someone can go one of two ways I have seen people with alcoholic parents turn into alcoholics or they won't even touch it at all because they have seen the effects of it. People shouldn't think that you will turn out bad just because of the things that have happened. Like I said before there are 2 paths that a person can take who has had trouble in their past; road one going down the same path or road 2 improving their life and being the better person and you choose that road.
I have a good friend who, in the third grade as well, lost his father to a disease. While his father didn't partake in the same activities you describe yours as having, it still left his mother to raise him as a single parent.
Well, he is doing perfectly fine about now, applying for and getting into college. Anyone who believes in a single-parent child turning out for worse compared to other people have only to look at my example or yours to see that this is not only untrue, but unfair.
Kudos.
I believe that seeing the effects of what your life could be if you make the same choices as your dad gives you more of a boost to make better decisions. You can have the dream of being the first in your family to go to college. (There is even scholarships for situations like this!) knowing how parents are, your mom wants the best for you always and she will always be there for support. So follow your dreams and show others what you are capable of.
It's the words and comments like yours, that also give people the drive.
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thanks all.
god bless.
From this blog entry I can assume that you're a little more responsible than these people who immediately judge you think. If your father hadn't had a drug problem, who knows? Maybe you would have, because you wouldn't have known the consequences as well.
Its people like you who America needs more of. I'm one of those kids who really have'nt experienced much. I just have'nt been in a tough situation. Turning things around isn't always easy but its always possible. Alot of people in your situation don't understand that they can take the next step and be better than their parents. I wish you the best of luck for your future!
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That was really meaningful, thanks for that. It is completely wrong for people to judge you based on your lineage, and I think it's kind of inspiring that you are as determined to become your own person as you are.
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I'm excatly the same way except my parents are just divorced and my dad is only an alchoholic not a druggie but still I understand how everybody wants to pity you or doubt you. But that's what makes you stonger.