Have you lost a best friend? Maybe to someone else, a fight, or an accident? Well my situation may be pathetic but I don't know how I feel. I had this best friend, we will call her staples, we were best friends for 3 years, but it felt like a lifetime, i was never good at getting to know people or expressing myself well to others, and she felt like my sister and it was great, we told each other everthing. Then came high school, we both went to different highschool's which wasn't so bad, until she got this boyfriend..he wasn't good for her and she wouldn't listen to me and i didn't want to push her away but i didn't want her to get hurt either. But he was getting her to do some really bad things with her life, eventually she realized that and broke up, but during the duration they were together we were kinda seperated because she spent all her time with him. And i know what it's like to have a first boyfriend and get carried away so i didn't worry about it to much and then comes the next boyfriend, and he was so much better until he started getting obsessive and controlling and started being mean to me, and eventually she started being rude to me also, saying differnt things but anyways i got over it and they broke up so we started hanging out more..it just seemed that evertime she had a boyfriend she would push me aside, anyways eventually i got a boyfriend and i was soo happy and i still am to this day but she has another new boyfriend and they don't talk to anyone, even if we are in a group they just seclude themselves and everyone is just tired of being around them and now she thinks its my fault that we don't have a friendship anymore and im not even sure i want it back.
Losing a best friend
By dancer5 - Posted on October 7th, 2007
If you have one true friend in life you can consider yourself rich. I feel family on earth was meant to be our only real source of friendship by always being there to listen to us regardless of the situation. Beware of wolfs in sheep's clothing. Give yourself some distance and enjoy making new friends.
I know what you mean, I met my former best friend (Nicole) in then 2nd grade and we would spend every moment together despite being in different middle schools but the same high school, which was awesome to us of course and made things a lot easier.
I got a boyfriend first and I guess I wound up spending more time with him than her, but she wouldn't want to be the 3rd wheel I guess because I always wanted her to come alone. She didn't tell me how she felt which led to the diminish of our relationship. I would try and spend time with her but she acted like I didn't care, even our mutual friends saw how she was changing.
She joined an elite group of dancers, which they're all back stabbing bitches, and she went with it. The last time I saw her was my sophomore year which was oh lets see 4-5 years ago. There's not a day that goes by that I wish I had had a talk with her. Nothing was worth losing the 8 year friendship we had. I don't know how shes doing or what's been going on and I want to share what's been good about our lives with each other. Heck she could be a mom or a pole dancer or not even alive and I still have no clue. It makes me sick to this day!
I'm going through that right now and I'm just so sad that I have to be on the sidelines of it. I hope you two manage to find some common ground and at least stay civil to each other.
Boyfriends come a go, but a friendship should last forever. It's very difficult to be strong and voice your true opinions to a guy you really like. It seems that a lot of girls will do whatever the guy says and try to agree with whatever they think to avoid conflict in the relationship. Just remember that boyfriends really do come and go. It sounds like she needs to figure out who is really more important to her - having a boyfriend now or a lifelong friendship. Maybe you should tell her how you feel she has been treating you and tell her that if she doesn't start being nicer, then the friendship will no longer exist....
Do not let this girl walk all over you and treat you like a doormat. I know it's hard to realize that when it's happening. I "lost" a so-called friend for the exact same reason. I had to stand up for myself and tell her she wasn't treating me right. This girl and I are no longer friends, but to this day I know I made the right decision by standing up for myself and not tolerating being stepped all over. Friends should be there for you, through and through. You've done the very best you can. :)
That happened to me. But what we dont realize is that we do it to them and they do it to us. When they hve a boyfriend they push us away, and when we have boyfriends we push them away. Its a no win win situation. But if the person was really a true friend they wouldve strived to keep the friendship going. No matter what the hell was going on in your love life, the same with hers. So then the question is... was she a true friend to begin with?
i also had a friend liike that too. We were best friend for 5 years and i believe ending our freindship was the best thing that happen to me.
Now i have a new best friend who understands me and who would not let her bf to insult me.Same with me i would never allow my bf to make fun of my friends, i would stick up for tehm and give him a piece of my mind. And no i am nto afraid that the relationship would end because if he respects me , he sould respect my friends too.
So basically you can give you friend a so called last chance talk to her about how you feel, and if she dont seem to care than maybe u need to find a friend who does.
it is hard to let go of long friendships, but it is necessary probably for your mental health. you have a family, a boyfriend, and you have other friends.
you need to tell her that she has changed and you do not feel a connection with her anymore. this does not mean that you will never hang out with her again. it just means that you will be with her less frequently.
true friends never stop being friends they just go away for awhile.
I can relate to how you're feeling. I'm going through the same thing right now. I had a best friend, and even when I moved away, we talked on the phone every day and stuff. Then I moved back in Feb and at the same time there was this guy she liked and she basically shoved me aside to chase after him and so now we don't talk and she's dating someone else. I'm like...good to know our friendship meant so much to you that you'd destroy it over a guy and then chase after the next guy that comes along. It's really difficult because I still want to be friends with her, but at the same time I don't.
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don't worry about that. you are going to college next year. and you are going to have a blast.
it just sounds like your friend is a little immature for you.
you will make new ones.
That's what I figure...I'm making friends with my future classmates and they're pretty awesome. I'm one of those types, though, that has a hard time with change in my life, so this has been a difficult experience for me.
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"It is poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish."
~Mother Teresa