On the subject of abortion, I usually hear people either saying, "It's murder, and murder is wrong," or "It's the personal choice of the mother; it's her body, let her do what she wants with it." Of course, there are other things that are said, but those are the main points that I encounter the most on the issue.
Now, I'm a Pro-Lifer, but I don't really want to talk about whether or not what a mother carries in her womb is a fetus or a child. I have my own views, and you have yours. To me, it seems rather pointless to butt heads over something that we're never going to agree on.
So, instead, I want to take a few moments to discuss the whole "I'm too young to have a child" issue.
If you're too young to have a child, then why are you having sex?
Yes, I know that sex is "fun." I have been told so by several different people. I'm a young woman myself, and I'm a virgin--proud of it, too. At my old job, I think that there were only two of us there who were virgins, so I got to hear plenty about the sex lives of the other employees. At least one girl there had an abortion, and another had a miscarriage. They were both only a little bit older than I was.
In most cases, I do believe that age is just a number, so I'm not going to say what ages are appropriate to be sexually active and what ages aren't. Quite honestly, I believe that it depends on the person, not on the age. But I strongly believe that, if you aren't "old enough" to care for a child, then you should abstain from having sex.
We all know that every method of birth-control is faulty at one time or another--all except for the most effective one: abstinence. You can't take care of a baby? Neither can I. So, stop putting yourself in a situation where you could get pregnant. If you aren't ready for the responsibility, then stop being so careless. Wait until you are ready, because getting pregnant is almost always a possibility.
Most girls nowadays don't really have to worry about taking responsibility, though. There's almost always someone there to clean up the messes that we make. You're pregnant and are "too young" to take care of the child? Great! Have an abortion! It's completely legal and perfectly safe! After all, it's your body, and you get to choose what to do with it.
How selfish can we be? How irresponsible can we be?
And it's all in the name of "fun," isn't it?
I know that some people have sex for different reasons. I have strong beliefs on the whole issue, and I'm going to wait until I'm married to lose my virginity, but I'm not going to go around pointing at people and telling them that they had better stop before God strikes them down with a lightning bolt. Same with people who get abortions. We all act according to our own beliefs. Unfortunately, a lot of people have beliefs that are just not healthy--just not beneficial to the world that we live in.
Sexuality is a serious issue. Too many people don't take it seriously enough. If nothing else, realize what a great responsibility it is. It is your body, so take care of it, and don't get yourself into a situation that can only end in some kind of pain. I have seen people go through abortions, and I have seen the pain and the trauma that they can cause.
So, do yourself and the world a favor: be responsible don't "do it" until you're ready to live with the consequences. In the end, that's a "personal choice" that will really count.
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But sex is pretty much the main driving force of the world. It is a pretty difficult thing for some people to resist. Not that they don't have a choice, but sex is big, sex is important. Aside from the tiny number of people in this world born without a sex drive sex is a central theme in anybody's life. Even a virgin such as yourself.
Abstinence is obviously the best policy, but "holding a girl responsible" amounts to , "you deserve it." That is no way to bring a child into the world. Someone unprepared to love a child shouldn't have one. I advocate as many choices as possible to make that happen. I want every child to be loved. I don't want children draped around the necks of stupid/ignorant/unlucky girls for piety's sake.
Res ipsa loquitur.
memor mori, mahalo.
Some people will NEVER want to have a child, or be ready to have a child.
If someone can either raise a child... OR have an abortion... I see no problem with their having sex.
If you're too young to have a child, then why are you having sex?
Because they want to.
In most cases, I do believe that age is just a number, so I'm not going to say what ages are appropriate to be sexually active and what ages aren't. Quite honestly, I believe that it depends on the person, not on the age. But I strongly believe that, if you aren't "old enough" to care for a child, then you should abstain from having sex.
And just why should anyone else base their life decisions on your beliefs?
So, stop putting yourself in a situation where you could get pregnant.
If you're a fertile woman, you're "in a situation where you could get pregnant." Not even abstinence will protect you from rape.
All fertile-aged women are always "in a situation where they could get pregnant," and your solution is that all women, aged 15-49, should abstain from sexual contact unless they want children?
So, let's do the math: the average woman wants 2 kids, and it takes about two years to have two kids (on average). So if she gets married at age 23, she'll be able to have sex until she's 25, then she and her husband will have to abstain for the next 24 years.
THAT IS RIDICULOUS. It is unreasonable and it is absurd and it is unhealthy and it will NEVER HAPPEN. It goes COMPLETELY AGAINST human nature!
It just goes to show that the "pro-life" agenda has NOTHING to do with saving babies and EVERYTHING to do with dictating women's sex lives.
I'm so glad that someone finally spoke up about the real cause of the whole abortion "controversy", if you will. I think it's ridiculous to use "fun" as a reason for having sex, because even if you're the horniest kid around there are other solutions. Good work.