I never planned on doing a continuation blog of my first one, Elderly Abuse, but here I am. I find myself in a very complex situation. I love my grandfather very much and I cannot decide what is better for him. He has Parkinsons disease, he needs help I know. He has been forgetting things lately and mixing up holidays. For the first time last week he forgot his S.S. number. My family decided to go along with his choice not to be moved to assisted living in his retirement home, instead we hired a "Helping Angel". She seemed nice enough to my mom. Then I went to drop of some paper work to her while I was home over break and she was not there, and she was supposed to be. She has been getting there late and leaving early. She talks on her cell phone rather than to my grandpa. She used her time there to do HER laundry. I feel that this is elderly abuse. Neglect.
I never thought I would be in this situation, and I had just written a blog about it. I really think we all need to take care of our elders. It is our job, they are the ones that got us here, that made us happen. Without the elderly of this country we would not have more than half the things we have today in our society. I believe that other cultures understand the respect that is needed for elders. Asian culture always takes care of their elders, including Indians. They have the grandparents live with them, they bring them everywhere, and they care for them without sticking them in an unfamiliar care settings.
Why is it that in America we cannot seem to gather respect for our seniors? We should all really begin to take them into our daily considerations.
You are in a similar situation I am in right now. I worry every day about it. But my grandmother lives in florida with my uncle.
But first I will address your situation. It sounds like your grandfather also has Alezhemier's, or dimentia. But forgetting could be from the parkinson's disease. Since he is forgetting things, the bad thing is most elderly will forget they are some where and fall and this is what causes them to pass away. But I'm sure you know that. Does your family have the money to hire a caring nurse to watch him daily? Because they really will. They normally always will watch elderly and care for them. This is really the only option I can think to do. I don't know why American can't respect elders, people are just so rude.
My grandmother's medicare won't cover her rehab stay anymore. It covered 100 days but she can not walk on her left leg. She can't go back to my uncle's house because he has to work and can't afford a nurse to take care of her. She will fall again and break her leg. My grandmother's friend won't take her back because she doesn't want to deal with her anymore. My uncle asked if we could take her! My dad works, my boyfriend works, and I work and go to school. Plus we live in a tiny house and have no room.
She is now in the rehab and as she keeps staying there, by the end of the month it will be 6,000 dollars. We don't know what to do either.
I am sorry about your grandfather. I tried to let you know about one option above if you can do that. We can't so we are stuck.
Well we did hire a woman to help him, I stated that, maybe you missed it. She doesn't do what she is supposed to though, its ridiculous. Sorry to hear about your grandma, it makes things really tough.
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I am talking about an actual nurse. Or is she a nurse? If she is I would report her to "Helping angels" and get a new one. If she is not a nurse than I think that would be a better road to go down to get a nurse.
Yes she is a nurse, and yes my mom is going to report her. After the laundry inccident my mom let it go, but when she found out she wasn't staying the whole time that was that.
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your so right if it wasn't for them we wouldn't have what we have. Some of the elders fought to give us what we have, many died!! Elderly abuse is just as bad as child abuse, you wouldn't smack around a little baby so why smack around a elder?
Exactly! The children are our future, and the elders are the past, they created history. I feel like America is just hyper focused on the future they forget what made the present.
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I agree with a previous comment, nurse or not, I would report her. Neglect is not acceptable in any care setting and is, I believe, the number one form of elder abuse.
No matter what kind of credentials she holds to be able to care for your grandfather, she is abusing her client's trust, and her own integrity, and should be reprimanded, and that may mean having a license revoked.
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Agreed! We hired her with trust, and she took advantage of it. I believe she is a nurse, but if not she has some sort of certificate, and either way she is neglecting my grandpa and therefore abusing him. It is indeed the number one form of elderly abuse.
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