there are times in everyones life where they will find something that they dont like about theirself
and usually if they talk to someone about it, that person tells them to change it if they dont like it
but is it really ever that easy? i mean most things are easier said than actually done
i think that if you really dont like something about yourself then maybe you should change so you would be happier
and i think that most people could be happier with themselves if they liked more things about themself
here is my problem..that i could really use some advice on
recently i have been feeling like im not acting how i should be acting, to my boyfriend..
ive realized that there are things that i dont like about myself
and i feel like i could change them
but the thing is..im not exactly sure on how to do that
i feel like i would be happier if i changed a couple things about myself
but where do i even start
i mean its who ive been for a while now, but i think i reallly do need to change these things
i mean they arent like major issues but i feel like it would be better if these things were fixed
first off, i feel like im too controlling
i always have to know what hes doing and where hes going if anywhere
i dont even know why it matters to me
i trust him with everything, and hes never done anything for that to change
so i dont know what my problem is
i know it looks like i dont trust him because im like this but i swear i do
its just i have a problem with trusting the people around me
people have fucked me over before in ways i wont even begin to name
but its hard for me to trust a lot of people
even people who have never done anything to me
BUT i do trust my boyfriend, hes probably the only person i can say that i trust with everything
hes always be there for me and i know i can tell him everything
but see that isnt even my problem
i dont know what exactly is..
i mean i am so in love with him and im afraid that ima through it away from how im acting
he tells me that i shouldnt worry and that im not doing anything wrong
but i still feel like i am doing stuff wrong no matter what he says
i was thinking that maybe i can start listening to him and not worry so much about it
and hope that maybe in time it will fix on its own
also i realized that im a very selfish person
BUT only when it comes to him
hes my life and i dont wanna lose him due from anything!
he means the world to me\
and i feel like i could treat him better than i do
he gives me the world and i feel like im letting him down a little bit everyday by how i act
but he tells me that i dont
maybe hes right...maybe i just overreact
or maybe i am right and that i need to change
i really dont know
i guess i just really need to realize(soon)
that he is mine and he isnt going anywhere
no matter what
its not that i dont accept that
its just i act this way because of how i was in my past
and i hate it
well if you read this i appreicate it
and comment me and let me know what you think, thanks.
As long as you are honest with yourself you will be unsure of many things. The anxiety that you are describing will reduce as your confidence grows. Experience usually increases confidence.
I would like to recomend a book that was a best seller several decades ago and helped many people to change their behaviors, and adjust the way they see themselves.
Psycocybernetics (there is also an updated and revised version with '2000' added to the title) by Maxwell Martz.
The author is a cosmetic surgeon that noticed how the physical outward changes he could make for his patients did not seem to matter as much as how those changes affected the way they saw themselves. His study of that, and the techniques he used to help these people make changes inside and out will give you a new perspective, and may be just what you need
Love yourself, and be worthy of that love.
"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."
Oscar Wilde