Why is it that after I got a boyfriend my friends got mad at me for being with him a lot? I mean, if I like him and I'm happy why should they be mad? I understand that it cuts in to our time together but I'm graduating this year and going to a different school then them next year so I'm not going to see them much after high school anyways, will they be mad at me then? NO, because then it is a choice on both our parts, not just mine. As long as the reason we aren't hanging out is my fault only then it is okay if they are mad at me. It is not my fault that I met an awesome guy that I have grown to love and I want to be with him a lot. I wish my friends would understand that. I do see my best friend at school everyday but she has turned in to something she isn't. She hangs out with people who smoke and other things that neither of us believed in before. I still don't but I feel responsible for her change. If I had been there for her, would she have changed so dramatically? I don't know. So.. this is just me venting.. Sorry!
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But they are probably mad because of the fact that you are graduating in three months, and they're not getting to spend these precious last moments with you. I understand where you're coming from, but you probably need to find some balance so that everyone is happy.
As for your best friend, I wouldn't go so far as to say that you're responsible for such behavior. But it could be the only way she knows to try to get your attention. If you both had the morals to not participate in such activities, and now you're more or less gone but still watching, she would know that this behavior would catch your attention and hopefully bring you back to her.
If it's a serious relationship, I mean. If you date around alot and it's not something your planning a future for, I can see them being miffed, because he's just another guy.
However, if it's a serious relationship, that guy is supposed to be your BEST friend. If you're going to make a future with him, he is supposed to be the other half of you! People tend to spend gobs of time with their best friend. I think that when a girl (or guy) starts getting deep into a relationship, that the other friends need to understand that, and back off. Monopolizing the guy or girl's time is only going to put strain on the relationship that otherwise need not be there. Of course there should still be "frind time" but it's not goin to be as much as there was before.
As far as your best friend changing - get over it it happens. No it's not the greatest thing in the world to watch someone you were so close to grow apart from you, and I don't mean to sound like a bitch either. It's just the truth. It's something you need to get over. Just like they need to get over the fact you have a boyfriend that you like to spend time with. Beliefs change from middle school to high school. She may see the merit in things that she didn't before, or may see that the things that she would have freaked out in years gone by don't matter so much. Just move on, that's all you can do.
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"So stuff that in your pipe and smoke it!"
I have a friend who spends all her time between three things: school, band, her boyfriend. We love her very much and want her to be happy, but we don't think she's going about it the right way. She always tells us how happy she is with her boyfriend and how much they love each other, but it always looks like she's jepordizing her heart for his attention.
-She made him promise to give up porn if she gave up romance novels (which she reads with us and we enjoy it quite a bit). She hasn't touched a romance novel since and he still watches porn with his cousin.
-When he started spending more time with his cousin over the summer, she had to go so far as to make up a story about meeting a nice new guy to make him pay attention to her.
-She's always bummed out whenever he's not at lunch with us. It's a real downer when we're trying to all have friend fun time.
-He tells her not to talk to her best friends (usually male). She became panicked when I reminded her about talking to a guy in one of her classes that she had not told him about.
-None of us really like him. He can't keep a job, he was bad about coming to school at all last year, etc. She's in the top ten of our graduating class and none of us want to see her dragged down because of him. Sometimes, her being happy seems... harmful from our perspective.
Do you get where I'm coming from? I can't say much for your friend who has started smoking, because I have had a friend do that and now she has a child and does drugs. :\