Is it a feeling?; a mere chemical reaction within the body?; something so apt to change? Or is it a choice?; something renewed everyday?; something more concrete?
I've struggled with this question for years. If love is nothing more than a feeling, a fickle chemical surge, our future is doomed. We have no hope for a lasting marriage in these times, because social constrictions have been lifted. Before, if the love feeling resulted in marriage, the couple must stay together because of social obligation. Now that those restrictions have been lifted, divorce rates soared. Is it even worth getting married if love is just a feeling?
On the other hand, if love is a choice renewed everyday, there is some hope for the future. There would be some worth in getting married. If two people can live together and choose to love despite all the problems of married life, then I can be more settled with taking the plunge.
Unfortunately, I can't see which option love is: if it's a feeling, or a choice. Is it worth taking the plunge? Or is it foolhardy to think I can spend the rest of my life with one woman, and not even try?
For now, I'm leaning toward the not-even-trying option.
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i don't know if love is a feeling or a choice..either way i would love to feel it. i think the action of marriage is a choice...working through a marriage and remembering why you married in the first place is a choice. i also understand that a person changes throughout their lives and expecting yourself to be the same after 10 years is hard. i say why fear love or marriage or divorce really. just live how you feel that day