This question can't really be answered because everyone thinks they are right. It just seems like kids get away with so much these days. I'm not a parent, not yet, but i do have some pretty strong beliefs on the situation. I would like to hear what you think about the subject.
How much tv is too much? I realize that with both parents working, tv is a good babysitter. Parents can even get some control over what their child watches by setting the parental controls on the tv. How do you know when it is time to set down the remote, and grab a book with your child, or an art project? I don't think you can completely starve your child of tv either, when they grow up and your not around to say what they can watch and when, what will happen then?
There are many people that believe that spanking is a wonderful thing, there are also many people who think spanking is the worst thing in the world. My friends mother is an army mom and she took a different approach to the situation. She counts to 5 and if the child does not comply she will make them do pushups. I don't really believe that spanking is the way to go with your child, i rather set them in the corner or send them to their room.
There are so many other issues out there that parents have to deal with day in and day out. I think my biggest issue is giving your child everything they ask for. Seems like every time this family comes into my store the child cries until she gets a toy. How many toys does this child need? So many parents will just sit there in the middle of the store with their crying child, forcing everyone to listen. Wouldn't it be easier to drop everything pick the child up and leave the store? Some parents think its easier to give the child the toy to make them shut up.
Well i'm just wondering what everyone thinks about this subject. I'm not trying to say one thing is right and the other is wrong.
What makes a good parent?
By lilpumpkin - Posted on April 30th, 2006
Tagged: Society
• Better future
I don't think I am right :D , but the following is what I observed and ideas from my psy. class:
SPANKING=Some veiw it as bad and some as good. BUT what happens when you get a child who does not listen? Who you ground and he runs out of the room? That you ground and he laughs at you? How do you punish then? My teacher showed us a new approach (only with children 1-5) If they cry, tell them to stop, if they don't carry them and turn the shower on. The child will be so shocked as why you did this that they will stop.
BUYING TOYS= A parent who buys their child EVERYTHING is teaching their children to be spoiled. What one should do is buy them a few toys, and only give them toys when they are good. WHat does a parent teach a kid, that being bad gets them a toy?
T.V=Depending on the show they watch, the amount of time can be changed from there. Perhaps 5 hours.
I saw a cool thing at work. The child was probably about five maybe a little younger, but she had given him five dollars for like his allowance, but it wasn't quite like that, but that was his money. They would be out shopping all day and he could pick what he wanted with that money. I kinda like that, but it wouldn't work with really little kids.
That's a good idea. But the kid would have to be 4, 5 or maybe older, and the little ones are the ones that make a lot or racket. Maybe if the parents says "You can only get one, and no more for a while"
It's hard to say what makes a good parent because it all depends on what you consider good parenting. Should the child be wel behaved and have morals or just be a good student? Different methods work for different children so it also depends on the child.
I'm a parent, I don't know everything about child raising I'll be the first to admit. But I can tell you this "it depends on the child". Some kids respond to spanking, some kids rebel worse and start hitting others. Some kids respond to time outs, some like mine scream the entire time their in time out. Nothing is universal, I don't care what "Super Nanny" says. As for kids watching TV. I think it depends on what your letting them watch. Educational TV is great for kids, my 2 yr. old is starting to speak Spanish thanks to "Dora the Explorer" and "Go Diego Go". He's learning numbers well and recognizes more animals then I can, thanks to educational television. But there has to be hands on, you have to do art projects, and practice reading and writing and all that. Otherwise you'll have an educated idiot, you know a kid that knows everything but can't do anything.
As for what to do with your child when their throwing a fit in a store, let me tell ya you have to have a child to understand what its like. Leaving the store isn't always an option, it can get really irratating when single people without kids act like its a big deal when a child is crying, I mean hello, your probably going to be in this situation one day too. People need to be understanding of parents when their children are acting up. When your on a deadline you can't just take your kid home and put them in time out. You have to deal with them in that situation because if you wait they won't put the punishment with the bad behavior. Thats my two cents on the subject.
I'm the oldest of 7 kids. My mom's approach to the whole spanking issue is that it sometimes is the right punishment, and it sometimes isn't. I was spanked, and I'm a better person for it. Parents who spank should spank in love, to make their kids mature, law abiding adults when they grow up.
My mom also follows the idea that if the kid screams in the store, everyone leaves. In my family that is likly to generate more tantrums, lol. But if the others want a chance to go back in that store, they'de better be quiet, my mom has been known to avoid a store for 6 monthes 'cuz the kids made a scene the last time she took them there.
Your mom sounds kinda like mine. I remember acting up once when we went out for dinner. I think it was almost a year before we went out again.
In my opinion, I believe that it is based on the influence that your child picks up. Say, for instance that if your child grows up around a friend who always throws tantrums and gets their way, your child is going to do the exact same thing thinking that it is the best thing to do and also he/she is going to get their way.
Also, the whole spanking idea to me is too much. I think that if your child is influenced correctly then when you say NO or even "threaten" that you'll spank them they'll take your word and listen. Then on the other hand there are those children that are just born rebellious and just need a spanking...
When i was little i spent all my time at my best friends house. Her mother and her just screamed at eachother all the time, she was a bad loser with games, and she was kinda bratty at times. She was my best friend though, and i saw what acting like those things does to you. But yeah some kids pick up everything from their friends and their siblings.
Parenting is an art. Some are naturals, some learn it, and others...well, you've all seen the effects of those not so gifted with parenting skills. I think spanking is necessary, mostly when the child is young and merely the sound of a hand to the diaper is enough pain to keep them from doing whatever it is they did again. I was spanked when I was very young, and honestly I don't remember it ever seriously hurting much. But it established my parents' dominance over me, and from a very early age, before I even remember, I did pretty much what they told me to, but I was never scared of them.
Spank em when they're young and gradually introduce other punishments. I wasn't spanked after I was...10 or 11. Man, my parents are awesome...
As my father has said and taught me, parents should not be the child's best friend. When it gets that point something is usually going wrong (most likely partying together, etc).
A parent is there to guide and help a child. Not to say "rock on!!"
-Kristen
Good parent is a person who care and lessons to the child but also guide and tech them respect and responsibility's.
Love 'em when they're good, spank 'em when they're bad. And make sure they know the meaning of hard work.