I recently took a poll on abstinence and waiting until marriage. A lot of the voters say that they didn't wait for sex until marriage, which is just dandy. I on the other hand, am waiting for sex, but not until marriage. I don't believe in the marriage for 1. I don't know exactly what I am waiting for. I laid in my bed last night and seriously contemplated what my reasonings were.
had I ever had the opportunity to have sex? yes plenty of times.
then why didn't I?
My sister is two years older than me (a sophomore at ASU.) She just turned 20. She is STILL a virgin. Is this a bad thing? Not necessarily. Personally I don't care. If she's a virgin cool, if she's not, still cool. So why has she stayed a virgin for so long? I know she's had the opportunity. I know she' s NOT waiting until marriage. So what is she waiting for exactly? I know...
...She's waiting for me. My sister and I compete for everything. She's done the same thing with her friends. She laughs in satisfaction when she finds out one of her friends that she graduated with had recently lost their virginity.
so is that what i'm waiting for? I know it is. I can't give her that satisfactory. It sounds so foolish, but we are so competitive it's berserk.
I know i'm supposed to be afraid of the consiquenecs of having sex, like STD's, and pregnancy, unfortunately that's not what's holding me back. Marriage is not for me, so losing my virginity at whatever point in my life from now on is not the issue. At this rate, with both of our stubbornness, we'll be virgins forever.
(good thing there is no one I want to lose my virginity to right now!)
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So, what does sex mean to you exactly? I think when the right time comes, both you and your sister will know it. Whether your a virgin or not, at the end, you'll still be the same person before and after. It's more like...who you're going to do it with that's important. Do you want your first time to be fast and lustful or slow but incredible.
Really though, it depends on your value of your own virginity. Some people value it more than others, some don't at all. Personally, I think if you guys are happy and having fun, it's not a problem at all. Do it when you want to, but not to win a competition. I find your situation to be funny. haha It reminds me of my sister and me. Good luck!
Heh. I don't care about people's sexuality anymore. If someone wants to have 20 partners in a night, great, as fine as everyone's consenting and being safe. If someone wants to be a virgin at 40, fine too, it's their business. Personally I'm celibate right now because I don't feel the need for a sexual relationship with another person. No biggie. No deep complicated reasons.
that's why I think I am going to lose this competition.
...or just don't tell your sister and friends about what activities you do and do not do in bed? :p
oh that's a good one! I'd mess with the whole system!
I wouldn't wait for your sister or compete with her. I know like you said you may compete alot but think about yourself. The thing I believe is that you should really be in love with someone before you do it. You should wait a while before you do to. If a guy loves you and cares about you they will wait. This is how you will know. You may not plan on getting married but who knows you might end up getting married. I also think the older you are the better because someone who is older is more mature.
all I know is I don't want to wait too long and die a virgin
There's so much to think about- how sex affects your standing with the other person, STDs, pregnancy, etc. It's a personal choice, and only you can decide when you're ready or not.
http://progressiveu.org/blog/leslieq
Check it out...it's a work in progress.