Love: A Discriminatory Emotion?

In response to an article I read on Haruki Murakami's writing, I too am beginning to reject the "love is good" ideology held by modernists. From a postmodern POV, love is not a participatory emotion but rather a self-asserting emotion. It seems that love is a result of our need for another person's support. Or the need to be needed, to feel powerful or important because there is somebody there who needs you. But this isn't the reason love isn't as great as it is given credit for. If all of these self-asserting emotions balance out, the result may be a beautiful thing. The different view on love that this article presents is that it is a discriminatory emotion resulting in love for those identifying with one's ego and hate for the rest.
While love is often considered a participatory emotion, in which one completely loses all self-pleasing motivation in the care of another being, postmodernism has a different outlook. According to Fubinobu Murakami, “We love ‘inside’ people with whom we share a common social identity.” This suggests that love is in fact the complete opposite from a selfless emotion; it is rather desire that is sought only to please our egos. F. Murakami says, “This results in love of the ‘same’ and discrimination against the ‘other.’” So, unless love is sacrificed, peace and equality is unattainable, as people would never be able to relate equally to one another. So, while readers reject the idea of a world lacking love, postmodernists tend to view this as “utopic.”