you know when your in high school its normal to live with your parents, well what about when your twenty five and have already graduated college? where do you go from there.i know a guy...lets call him "tom"...that is in this situation. he works at a minimum wage job, lives with his parents, but he has a BA in english. i am only 19 and i am dying to get out of my house just to be free and on my own but i wonder about the "selected few" who just cant leave. Are they just lazy? the money? or they just love their parents? in my opinion people that stay with their parents too long dont start their lives until its too late. some people are married and already have a kids by the time they are "tom's" age. my thoughts are if you have a BA why aren't you working at a better job....actually he doesnt even do a good job where he works.he actually starts problems at his job. is this result of living at home? if i had college training i wouldnt try to make problems i would just try to get a better job....wouldnt you? or atleast make an effort to get out of my parents house....point being how old is too old for living at home? and when is it too late? i think if there are signs that your life isnt improving you should try your hardest because pretty soon youll be thirty or thirty five still at home with a minimum wage job......think about it.
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Some men would live with their parents forever if the parents would let them. I've got a friend in his 30s that still lives at home. Like your friend, he has a college education and is incredibly smart, but works for right at minimum wage. I think 30 is really too old (even though, late 20s is questionable as well). I say 30's though, because by the age of 30 you should be finished with most college, have a job, be able to afford your own place, your own car, etc. It might not be your dream home or dream car, but by the time your 30, if you're still bumming off of mom and dad something is wrong. Once you hit 30, you just don't have a valid excuse anymore!
I think a lot of people stay with their parents because they are looking for stability. At home, meals are provided laundry is washed (if you're lucky) and you always have someone to talk to. It takes a lot of planning and risk-taking to move out on your own and a lot of mistakes along the way. Some don't want to take that chance until they really have to.
I've had the same situation with two of my older brothers. They're 45 and 46 years old. They both lived with my parents until their mid-30's. They STILL don't hesitate to go to my parents for money when they need it. My parents are 70 years old!! They have a fixed income. I've talked with my brothers about it and I've talked with my parents about it. My brothers are just being lazy and irresponsible. Why live their own lives and be responsible when my parents are so willing to do it for them?? I can't stand it. My parents are enabling them and will never stop because it's for their children. If I hear that one more time, I'll scream.
Well lil homie I feel you! No but seriously, I want to leave too. I also want to stay though. All that free food and stuff I might miss too much. Good blog lil lady! And you said you couldn't think of something to talk about.
As is often the case, "normal" covers a lot of range. In suburanized America, it's common to expect everyone to buy their own home, buy their own car, buy their own TV, buy their own iPod, etc. Sometimes this is called the "nuclear" (maybe "subnuclear") family.
But where I live now, somewhat rural city in Vermont, it's common for family members to live next door to each other, sometimes with two or three houses on the same plot of land, and often there is a "live in grandparent" in either the house or an attached "inlaw apartment." In some very urban areas, families live in adjacent row houses or triplexes, etc. A 1960's sitcom - All in the Family - used the two families in one house setting for the humor it offered; no one thought it was a particularly abnormal living arrangement.
As living and health care costs soar, and wages stagnate, maybe we'll see less nuclear families and more extended families. (A lot of the pressure to leave the house is from the other side - there are limited job opportunities in the "old neighborhood," less chance to grow into new roles, etc.)
Take care,
well i guess living at home at 25 is pretty bad. but in europe it's looked at as a good thing. most countries besides the US don't look down upon the fact that a 25 year old person still lives at home.