Well, in English class we are starting are research paper, and mine is about does divorce cause children to make children make bad choices. The bad choices they "supposedly" make because of their parents divorcing are doing drugs, smoking cigarettes, and drinking alcohol. I do not think that divorce causes these problems. Personally, I think it is the kids own choice to do these things not the divorce that causes this. Yes, I know there is peer pressure but they can still say no. My parents have been divorced for a long time and I have never done drugs, smoked, or drinked alcohol and that is because I think it is stupid.. I also have friends whose parents are divorced, and they drink and smoke because they think it is fun not because there parents got a divorce. I think people are just trying to find something to pin how their children behave on instead of the fact that their kids are making bad choices. I would like to hear your opinion on the matter. Just remember not to be rude.
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I totally agree. Blaming things like that on divorce is outrageous. Would you rather the parents stay together and fight all the time in front of the children. While I believe that divorce is the easy way out in some cases, there are others where its just for the best. To blame a childs bad behavior on it is ridiculous. Kids are going to do what they want to and that's that. It's not because their parents are divorced, it's because of peer pressure and bad choices on their own part. The parents are at fault for not knowing what's going on in their kids life, but not for getting a divorce from someone they just feel they can't live with anymore. That's crazy.
I've been raised in a single parent family since I was about 12. I consider myself to be pretty normal. I mean I get decent grades, I'm not mentally unstable, and I'm a pretty nice person. I do have a father, and I do speak to him, but he in no way supports me, which makes college hard, but besides that I'd say I have a pretty decent life coming from a divorced family.
So I say no, if you're parent's are divorced it shouldn't affect you. Although I will admit, I cannot stand my parents significant others, their happines concerns me more than how much I like their significant others.
But then again, there are those certain cases where a divorce can ruin a kids head. But overall I say it doesn'f affect the choices a kid make.
That is a really hard one. I mean if you have been through your parents divorcing Im sure it would be hard to get through your parents always fighting and which parent has to look after you when the divorce has been finalised. It would seem that the kid would have no sense of the right direction to go in and would be an easy target to peer pressure or just going through a rebelious stage to become noticed by the parents. It really does have alot to do with the child, whether or not they are to sensitve and can't handle situations that personal. It really is hard to pin point exactly what can cause kids to fall apart during divorce. Maybey it has alot to do with a persons mental state to start off with?
My youngest sisters and I are all fairly normal, and we've been raised by our single mother for the past... 7 years now? My older sister seems pretty normal, though she's Autistic and has been through some stuff stuff.
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I agree it just seems to me that our vows mean nothing.
See my blog about this topic:
http://www.progressiveu.org/231643-till-divorce-do-we-part-do-our-vows-mean-nothing
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I don't think that a parent's divorce is ALWAYS the reason for a child's misbehavior. It depends on the individual child. For example, my parents got a divorce when I was twelve: old enough to realize what was happening, but not quite old enough to understand why. And I don't drink or do pot or smoke. But I do know some people whose parents have been divorced since they were young, and they do go out to all the parties and get tanked only to wake up the next day to do it again. I don't think that has much to do with the divorce though. But I can see how, if a child with lower self-esteem were to watch their parents get a divorce, and it wasn't particularly easy, they could be driven to find acceptance and comfort in drinking and smoking.
I think that you are completely right. I am not involved in drinking or drugs and my parents were divorced ever since i was like 4. How a kid turns out is based on the kid, and the choices that he decides to make.