1. Why do all good things come to an end?
- That fact is, good things don't last forever. Why is a question that
should be posed to a higher being :-). (That wasn't so hard lol)
2. Why is it so hard to let go?
- Well alot of people think it has to do with attachment and routine. I
agree. If you've been with someone for such a long time, it becomes a
routine part of your life and once there gone, you most likely feel
like somethings missing. The fact is, being with someone for a significant
amount of time takes a toll on you whether you know it or not. Once
there gone, you feel a void in your life that wasn't there before. You
like the feeling when that person was always around and you forget what
it was like without them there. Also alot of people are just afraid to
move on, maybe in hopes of getting back together or afraid of getting
hurt yet again.
3. Do you believe in fate?
- Fate meaning "what's meant to be will be", "que sera, sera" and "god
has a plan for everyone". I do believe that if something is meant it
will happen, but you can only prolong the inevitable but for so long. I
mean fate in the terms of a relationship, lets say. Breaking up in most
situations is inevitable in my opinion. You can only fix whats been broken but so many times. Alot of people believe if you love someone you should let them go and if its meant to be, they'll come back. But I
also believe that sometimes, you need a little push...
4. Does your first love affect the rest of your relationships?
- Of Course!!! Most people are with their first loves for a very
significant amount of time. Once thats over, your whole perspective on
relationships as a whole is, for better lack of a word, fucked up. But
also whos not to say that every relationship you embark on doesn't
effect the very next? Its just a matter of which is the worst, and I
believe that its the first. I think your first love has to do alot with
fears of (1) moving on and (2) getting hurt again. I say 8 times out of
10 "first love breakups" are not even a mutual feeling and it leaves
one, if not both, people emotionally and mentally distressed.
5. Why is it so easy to fall for someone yet so hard to stop?
- Well the answer for this is just about the same in #2. When you first
meet a "potential" (my word for a future, could be bf/gf) you're just
getting to know them. As time goes on you start to know more and more
about them, and slowly but surely, you get attached. Then you get used
to it, you break up and you dont want to move on (lol as stated in #2)
6. Why do we let pride get in the way of the things we want?
- To some people pride is the only thing they truely own. So when it comes time to choose your
pride or that thing, you're most likely to choose your pride. It just
human nature, basic instincts. We dont want to look weak or smaller to
our peers and most importantly, ourselves.
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Haha. I should be more aware searching for my first love then. But #4 is totally true for my sister. She had her first relationship, and not that it's over....her love life is basically gone. Now she's a little bit bitter towards her ex. Although stuff like these people should already know because it's common sense, you still see people getting lost in the world of "true love." I blame anime and hollywood. lol
That movies and TV have that kind of affect on people where they believe what they see. Everyone wants their prince charming or their knight in shining amor, but not everyone finds that right off the back. Like I once heard " Someone should sue disney for making everyone believe they have a prince charming." lol
My first relationship had an effect on how I view relationships, but I also realize that every person is different. My ex was an idiot in dealing with me. I can't hold that against every guy I meet. although I do sometimes compare them. Recently I went on a date in which the "potential" opened and closed car doors for me as well as other doors, he basically was the perfect gentleman whereas on the other hand, my ex would just drop me off at my driveway.
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1.) I agree. All things come to an end. While it grants saddness to the joyful things that end, it should also provide hope for the bad times we endure.
2.) Good answer. there is also the idea that we are meant to be in relationships with one another and feel somehow.... inferior... if things do not work out.
3.) Fate... I don't believe in Fate as an entity, but as a Christian, I do believe in design. :)
4.) Also agree, though I suspect that one's parent of the opposite gender also influences this decision by the model they present of what a Gentleman or Lady should be.
5.) Nicely put. It is also easy to like our perceptions of a person, which are sometimes very hard to reconcile with the reality that can end a relationship. When we finally reconcile the two, we are 'over' that relationship.
6) Pride is a self-defense mechanism in many... They don't want to open up and be vulnerable, so they puff themselves up to keep from getting hurt.
At least if you believe in a god and heaven, which then you actually have a purpose in life.