I have always been a strong supporter of adoption, especially since my younger brother is adopted. I am torn between desiring children of my own and adopting a child to make my own. I know from experience what a big difference genetics and raising a child from the first day make (I have another brother the same age as my adopted who my mother birthed). My adopted brother has some emotional and physical problems left over from his previous caretakers.
So, the question: which is the better option?
To adopt and help a child who may not have another chance, with financial and more possible emotional/functioning problems
Or to have your own child who is genetic combination of you and your partner, and who you get to mold even in the womb.
My boyfriend completely wants to have his own children, but I am not sure--It seems like the more selfish thing to do, to me.
Maybe neither--Maybe the best option is to have your own child, then adopt/foster children later, once you are financially more stable, and know how to be a good enough parent to take care of an older child.
What do you guys think?
Well adopting is a long process its gonna take up a year maybe 2 years process. Its really unfair that he only wants to have kids how about having a kid than adopt. Just a thought.
Personally, I want to have a child of my own then once it gets a little older, I want to adopt. I feel so bad for all the kids that go without parents. I think that everyone should have an opportunity to grow up in a great family. I hope that everything works out.
I think adoption is the way to go. There are so many needy children in the world today, it seems irresponsible and selfish to bring a new one into the mix just because you have an irrational attachment to your own DNA.
Just my two cents. Good luck however you decide!
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I think adoption is the way to go. There are so many needy children in the world today, it seems irresponsible and selfish to bring a new one into the mix just because you have an irrational attachment to your own DNA.
Just my two cents. Good luck however you decide!
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I think this is a very personal decision. My opinion? If I ever decide that I want kids, plan on adopting. There are kids and teens (not just newborns!) who need a caring and stable family environment. Plus, I'm not all that interested in that bit about giving birth. It's a very dangerous thing to do, even with a great doctor and good health.