We've all lost something or someone important in our lives whether it's the lost of a loved one or the loss of a friendship and sometimes it's seems like its impossible for us to ever move on but when its comes to breaking up with your significant other, is it possible to move on? Most people say that it is impossible an others seem to handle death better than a breakup. I've slightly came to the conclusion why this is possible and heres how:
Love: If you breakup with someone that you were in love with, you may have a hard time dealing with it because you think that you will never love again especially if you have been with someone for a long time. Now there's a BIG difference from being in love and loving someone. When you are in love, you've basically fallen for a certain person and you share all your feelings with them and you plan to be with them forever. It's an emotional attachment. When you love someone, you care about them a lot and its much easier to deal with the breakup with someone you love because you can maintain a mutual friendship with them but you can' with someone that you were in love with because being in love goes beyond frienship.
Denial: Many people don't get over heartache because they think that there is only one person for them but that is very untrue. You could meet someone even better than the person you were with. Like the old saying goes "There are plenty of fish in the sea". You need to realize that there will be someone else in the future and you were not meant to be with that one and only person and you CAN love again. It takes time but it's very possible. Also, many people feel that without that other person, you aren't complete. Being with yourself is perfectly fine too. Then, the main reason for long heartache is that the person feels that since they are broken up with someone, they have no one to love them and they have no one to love. You MUST love yourself first. Many people always rely on other people to love them and they don't know that they need to love themselves FIRST before anyone else can love them.
Time to Heal: When you breakup with someone, you shouldn't jump into another relationship so fast because the person you are with will be your rebound and you'll be still thinking about your last relationship and you'll only hurt the person you are with. You need time to get over the breakup and this could take months or even years. You NEED to be ready to start over. It's possible to move on. You can get over your heartache. You just need time. You can love someone else and you can be happy again.
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I find it a lot harder to get over the death of a loved one then a break up, though. I've only loved one guy, he broke my heart. That WAS NOT my fiancee. I know, how odd. I did not even love the guy that I was engaged to for months. I don't necessarily have a problem with breaking up, its the fact that many guys are rude to me that I have the problem with. Your words make sense!