Okay, so I was talking to my dad a few days ago, and we were in the middle of watching Guess Who's Coming to Dinner. We both had this discussion about interacial relationships, and he claimed that black women had a bigger issue with black men getting with white women. I said that black men seemed to have a bigger problem with it. We were going back and forth with our reasons, and then my dad finally stopped me. He said, "Okay, this whole thing is a stupid issue. It's just skin color." At first, I gave the nice American response. "Yeah, your right." But it bothers me that we even considered it an "issue." Are mixed relationship really an accepted thing now, or is everyone just pretending to be okay with it. Of course people don't get shot for it now, but is there still some sort of tension? I also wonder how a white parent would respond if one of their children married out of his or her race. I asked my dad what he would do if I brought home a white man, and he said that he'd question my reasons. Would I just be trying to prove a point? I also thought about my own issues. I say that I don't have an issue with white men, but I'm just not "attracted" to them. I really wonder how much influence society has on my mindset.
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I think that most people tend to stay within their race because it is what they are adjusted to. It also depends on where you are from. It is more acceptable to society to date someone of a different race in certain areas. For example, in the North it is more acceptable to date a black person than it is in the South. I personally have no problems with interracial relationships, but I know several people that do.
*~Heidi~*
Hell i'll admit I love white men and im black...i remeber along time ago before i moved to the suburbs that i thought it was unecepptable
to like anyone who wasnt black. but now i kind of prefer them...not to say their arent any great black men out there. right now thw white guys are winning my heart.
my family is from a really small town so racism is a big issue for them. They would tell me " You can hang out with white folk, but you cant trust them"
And as far as feeling a little weird about dating outside your race its natural...to be honest there are alot of ppl aorund you making you feel bad about how you feel...i sumtimes feel weird too...like im betraying my race. But your not after all ot was a great romantic who said" I felt before I thought" and he was white.
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My roommate and I were discussing this earlier today. We are both mixed. She said that nowadays it don't seem like an issue to go outside the race. I beg to differ. Even in the north, it still seems strange to see a mix couple. When my family and I go out, we sometimes get strange, uncomfortable stares. I don't know what the issue is, but I think if 2 people make each other happy, who cares what their race are? I wish people could stop seeing skin color, and see two people in a happy relationship.
I definitely think it's the stupidest thing, but it's a strange societal issue. It only interests me because it's one of those silent prejudices. People have problems with it and aren't sure why. I have to even examine myself on some occasions. I don't purposefully date only black guys, but I've never honestly considered someone white. It's just interesting. And you're right; it shouldn't matter, but my question is...why does it matter?
Simply Free
My opinion is not about the color at all, it's all about the culture. That's what my dad said and I really agree, it's not a color difference that matters it's the cultural difference. Like, I don't have anything against black women but I wouldn't really want a "dating" kind of relationship with one. I mean I guess you could say that the whole, color, thing would be in the back of your mind. But that's hard to escape now-a-days, we all know that. But the main thing I don't like is how some (not all!) black women act. Now don't be taking me wrong here, nothing against black people at all, there's a just a major difference in attitude and I guess you could say cultrue. But it's like there are two sides and you're forced to pick one. Everywhere you go you'll see racial acts all the time, sometimes I get looked at wierd by a black person because I'm white. And alot of white people think that they're better than black people. But, I guess you could say there's a third race to, christians! lol I'll pick the third one.
I think it's interesting that you said that. You wouldn't consider dating a black woman because of the way we act, but you say that you're the Christian? I'm a Christian too, but come on. I think you probably need a little more exposure to positive black women because your idea of a black women is really messed up. I think you were better with the idea of culture and not behavior.
haha now, when I say that I wouldn't be as interested in a black woman, I'm not saying that all black women act weird or different or something like that. I'm saying that with most black women there's that cultural difference there that I wouldn't want a real relationship with. NOW, when I say that am I saying I don't want a relationship with any black woman? No, of course not! If I found a woman that I liked and might want to have a serious (as serious as it gets at my age haha!) relationship, doesn't matter what color she was I wouldn't hesitate to be interested. Also, I don't really consider all this to be part of the "christian way". I mean I try and love everyone, no matter what they do, just like God's Word says to. But if, you know, I'm not interested in someone I don't really think it effects my christianity. Does being a racist and refusing to date another race probably effect christianity? Yeah I think it would, but I'm not one of those people.
Thanx. I understand. I just wanted to make sure.
Simply Free
why do you question him He said it very clear that it is a culture thing. i am saying this because your reason for not dating white men is way more racist. You said you are not attracted to white men. is that every white man in the whole world is that true ? If it is you better question yourself.
Attraction is a mind thing and has nothing to do with racism, she might not fancy dating white men now, but for various reasons her mindset could easily change overtime.
The thing is, that we can never tell whether one day yes or no some attraction might arise to venture or open up to individuals of a different race.
The main problem most black woman are dealing with nowadays is the fact that many white guys look down upon them like if they were cheap pussy!
This results into black woman being more cautious when it comes to open up romance with white males. Especially when they have a drinking habit white males can become extremely humiliating without even noticing they are.
Than you have sexuality itself!
Most white men hate to see a gorgeous blond walking down the street hand in hand with a black man.
The reason for this is because they are sexually frustrated in their minds. Because they think the only reason why this white woman is dating a black guy is SEX!
White men are afraid of black woman because in the back of their heads they think they can not handle black woman sexually, I wont go in detail but I’m sure most amongst us will understand what I’m referring to.
This is off course complete nonsense and based upon prejudice.
People will mingle and keep on doing so, there is no doubt about that, so, one can better enjoy it instead of judging from the side line!
Back when interracial marriage was legalized in 1967, the vast majority of Americans, especially Christian conservatives, were against it. It was only in the `9Os that the majority came around, but young Americans are solidly okay with it now, I think.
I`m white and I never concerned myself with what race anyone is, and I`ve ended up with a guy of another race. My parents love him, but his mother doesn`t accept white people as equals. She also doesn`t accept him being with a guy, but my parents are glad I have someone I love.
I`m glad he doesn`t let his mother`s prejudices get to him. I`m hardly even conscious of race. To me, he`s just my soul mate. If someone else has a problem with something so trivial as what color my skin is, I`ll just let them lose sleep over it, but I won`t. Someone like that mt never be able to be content with life because they will always be concentrating on things that don`t matter, like someone else`s race.
Are you male or female? Gay?