just venting

So I just want to vent a little bit. What really bugs me is mothers who don't take care of their children. I mean it's one thing if for some reason you can't, but it's another if you just don't want to. I just don't unsterstand how someone can just throw thier child on someone else like a grandmother, aunt, uncle or whatever. Then to make matters worse they don't give this person any money to help support the child or give food or clothes to the kid. Then the kid wants to spend some time with their mother and what? shes too busy. Doing what? Running the streets like a teenager. She don't work, or works very little. That's just not right. The one really getting hurt here is the child. I mean don't you think by the time you're 35 it's time to grow and take reasonbility. And then don't get mad at the person taking care of the kid for diciplining them. If you don't like the rules of the house then take care of your own kid and stopping giving them to some one else to do it, be a mother/father whatever. Does any one feel me on this subject? I have a family member in this situation. She just recently took in her inlaws child, but she can barely make it herself and take care of her own family. She feels bad for the kid and she's not the type of person to turn a child away. It's not the kids fault the mother don't want it. The child did'nt ask to be born. I stay with her and I help with what I can, but I didn't sign on for this. Maybe I'm being selfish.