Living together before marriage!
I would like to know how people feel about the thought of living with the one you love, and intend to marry before you have actually tied the knot. Personally I love my boyfriend and we have been together almost 2 years, we do not have enough money to get married and economically it is smart to live together at this time. Do not get me wrong I also want to live with him because I do not want to be away from him, but many do not think one should do this. We have to keep it secret from some of the family because they feel it is a sin and we should not do this. It is just really hard to keep it from some of the family members and creates some problems sometimes. I sometimes wonder if living together will help or hurt our future marriage relationship. I think that after being though a previous bad marriage, I am very skittish at this point. I have been married once and things changed after marriage. I always wonder if we would of lived together first, if things would have been different. It seemed as though it was the right thing to do at the time because we loved each other and the family was so excited for us. I am just looking for some input from your experiences and am wondering if I am doing the right thing. If you can, please give me your opinion on what you think. I will listen to your comments weather good or bad but just need your insight on this matter.
My partner and I have no choice but to live together before marriage, because we can't get married legally. It hasn't hurt us to live together. I think the idea that living together might damage the relationship is exactly why people should live together before marriage. Figure out if you can be with this person 24/7 before you commit to them. But on the other hand, I think that if you have to hide it from people, you shouldn't do it. Keeping secrets is stressful, and THAT will damage your relationship. Only move in together if you are prepared to stand up for your decision.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
As a guy, believe me that it does not make a difference whether you come to my house on Sunday then go home or you stay there.
I am not Dr. Phil, but i can give you my input. I have been married for 9 years to the same woman, and i am 34, so you can do the math. We decided to live together with no kids to see if the relationship part will work. With the input that you gave, i am assuming that even if you don't move in together you are still intimate.
What difference does it make, being intimate and him sleeping in your house 2 days and you sleeping in his house for 2 days or moving together for economic necessity and working it out?.
king xixa
It is so funny how I am in the exact situation you are in right now. I have been with my boyfriend for what will be two years in May. Since day one I haven't been able to be away from him. I was always at his place. When I wasn't at work, I was hanging out with him. When I wasn't at school I was hanging out with him. We had an absolute immediate connection that we just could not ignore. Soon enough my stuff just started accumulating at his house. He didn't mind, and neither did I. The fact was that we had become best friends in the process and realized that we needed to be together, like it just fit. My family, once they found out, were not happy at all. My mom was on the top of the list. She had a sit down with me, gave me a speech, the whole nine. But I think it was the best thing. I got to really know him. What he likes. What he doesn't. What side of the bed he sleeps on. What food he likes to eat. How clean he is, or isn't, lol. Living together just helps you to see whether or not it fits. I have been living with home for over a year now, and it seems that I haven't drove him crazy yet, because we are soon to be married by the beginning of next year. So, I think its a good idea. But don't wait too long for that ring! k lol
It's my belief that sex should wait for marriage. Thus removing sex from the equation, there is nothing wrong with living with your significant other.
While living with someone before you marry them MAY affect how your marriage goes, etc etc, it SHOULDN'T. You should know your partner well enough and have spent enough time with them and basically just know them inside and out before you make a life-long commitment to them.
I think living together can greatly benefit a couple, however I don't believe it's a necessary step in a working marriage.
It is definitely not necessary to live with the person before you are married, but i don't think its bad. I am not saying that it is the only way to go.
Jasmin Muniz
living together before marriage can help you and your boyfriend get an idea of what married life is.
I read a statement once which said it is the worst idea living together before getting married. I thought this was the stupidest thing I had ever heard. The reason is because when you live with someone you find out things they do that get on your nerves and how to fix them. Also by being together most the time you can see if you can stand being married to that person. When couples don't live together and get married they may find out alot of things that they don't like about that person or things that seem to irritate them. This could lead to a failed marriage. My boyfriend actually lives with me and my dad. I know you think this is kind of strange but he has had the worst "family" if you can call them that. He has been living here for 2 years and it has been a good experience. sure sometimes I want to kill him.(not literally) but I am sure he wants to kill me also. It is a very good thing to live together and I don't recommend living apart before getting married.
Something people should know about:
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
How on earth could it harm your married life? O.o Living together would give you a chance to know how it would be like to be married.