Why wait?

I had sex. I was not married. And it was not in the "it happened once" kind of way. I set my beliefs aside and did what I felt, with whoever I wanted, when I felt like it-- for years. The result a lot: of physical pleasure that was worth nothing compared to the emotional pain.

I should have known the rules that God puts before us are there to protect us, if only some one had told me sooner! How was I to know if no one ever told me? It could have ended happily, such as in the case of my best friend who ended up marrying the only man she'd ever been with, but it didn't.

I believe the reason you should wait is so that you are protected, against more than an STD or unwanted pregnancy; to protect your heart. I know that the oxytocin and vasopressin (the hormones released during and after sex) are a part of God's plan to keep married couples together. When you have sex these hormones make women put up with anything a guy has to dish out (case in point, young girls who sleep with their boyfriends are often mistreated and keep coming back for more, and desire only to be closer) and these hormones make a guy want to be protective and providing of necessities (when boys who are too young or not committed enough feel the emotions resulting from this hormonal surge they freak out and back off or run away). As you can imagine, these situations often lead to a lot of heart ache. There are a few reasons that I see now that I wish any mentor in my youth would have sat me down and told me. Sometimes, you have to figure it out for yourself, but even if you don't believe the bible, the science backs it up, it's a bad idea to have sex before you're married. And look at the benefits of waiting...you and your spouse form a deep bond that only you two share with one another and have never shared with anyone else before; it makes your marriage THAT much less complicated, and let's face it, marriage will be hard enough either way. I now have decided to wait until I find my husband to have sex again, you could say I'm a "born again virgin" and let me tell you, waiting now is even harder because I know that it can be ...I'll just say "fun." Sex is not immoral or bad, it is in God's design for couples to have children, become close to one another, and bond in such a way that they keep their families together and happy. When I see married couples who focus on God and make him the center of their lives and relationship and do it according to his plan, I want that kind of marriage for myself, and that is why I am waiting.