Since when did my life become the basis of a friendship falling apart? Yes! People! I Shyvone, a person of one am solely responsible for the demise of a friendship all because I refuse to date a woman or any woman who sexually identifies themselves as being straight. EHHH Stupid? Yeah I know. So last night I got into a fight with someone who tells me that all they want is for me to be happy, and that I am too damn judgemental and that I am not giving this young (19) straight girl a fair chance as far as entering into a relationship (a romantic relationship). So all while hearing that I am the bad guy, the heart breaker, the villain; I decide that it may just be better for me to walk away. No! she decides to walk after me and to continue on the way telling me that I am running and that I am crazy because I still have feeling for my ex (which is true) and that I need to take a chance with this girl who is clearly into me. First of all, I am totally uncomfortable with the way this chick is acting, all while I am at her apt she is hugging up on me and trying to fondle me and when I try to return the same gestures she pretty much says "I'm not ready" that's all that I hear, so of course I shoot back "Okay! That's cool!" I spent hours dealing with a girl who although is crushing on me really bad, she is also taking some notes from the character of 'Fatal Attraction', then my friend or at least someone I thought was my friend is encouraging this crazy girls behavior. I am asking for a little help and the damn girl is laughing her ass off because she thinks that this shit is hilarious, and I am of course getting pissed off because I feel like I am telling her to back off because she clearly doesn't know what she wants, all while she is saying that she wants me. People, why is it that I am trying to make the right decision and I am still coming out as the bad person. My "Friend" told me eventually by the end of the night that maybe we shouldn't be friends because I clearly was once again judgemental and that despite that the girl is a tad bit crazy I am not giving her a fair chance. Does this shit even make sense? How in the fuck did she enter into this equation and how does my relationship (or lack of) relate at all back to her? So not only do I feel like a jerk because I refuse to give the straight girl a 'fair shot', I feel like no matter what I do I am constantly fucking up. OY VEY
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I'm straight and a guy so I don't know how things go in the world of lesbian love life. I image though that mostly people are people.
For myself, just because someone seems to be attracted to me and is straight (and the opposite sex), that is not sufficient qualification for me to feel the need to date them. I actually have numerous additional standards and being sane and mentally together is just one of them.
If you don't want to date someone then don't date them. There is no reason to feel bad about it and if your friend can't deal with that then it is your friend's problem.
And by the way, God (or Darwin) gave you a brain precisely so you could be judgemental. Being judgemental is a good thing and it is what keeps you from doing things like eating poisonous mushrooms. Normally you should try to be fair in your judgements but attraction and love are totally emotional and subjective things so fair really does not enter into it. And even if you are moderately interested, I think it shows good judgment to avoid a relationship with someone you perceive to be a headcase. That seems even more true when you are still dealing with some unresolved feeling of your own from a previous relationship.