I was over my friends dorm last thursday night.. It got me thinking about relationships and whatnot... My one friend has been dating this girl for two years... He is really in love with her... But just like all relationships theirs has their downfalls... He has messed up quite a bit which I am sure hurt her like no other and yet she stays with him... Now he really has done some serious stuff that if I was his girlfriend I would not even be speaking with him anymore... Almost like his actions were worse than cheating... And he lies like no other to her... I feel bad for her because he is tearing up her trust... Well as I was saying the other thursday night I was over at his dorm room and his drunk friend came barging in the room screaming "you are such a nice guy that girls a crazy contolling bitch she doesnt deserve you." Now I do believe that he is a nice guy but I am still trying to piece together why this guy thinks shes a crazy controling bitch... I have seen his girlfriend ask him about different girls he has talked to and I have seen him lie to her face about it... I dont really question why she wouldnt want him talkin to some girls because he really doesnt have enough decency to tell her the truth for once in his life... I dont know why she stays with him... I will vouch for saying I know they are in love but her trust is down to zero basically now im my opinion because of how many lies he has told her... I have talked to her before about this and she told me she really thinks she is going to marry him someday... And she said all she asks of him is that once and a while he does something nice for her to make her smile... Now back to my other friend... He does sit around the computer all day talkin to her on yahoo messanger... I dont believe he is on there because she is forcing him to talk to her, I believe he wants to talk to her... The only thing I know about her that someone might say is controlling is on thursday nights when frats have their huge parties he doesn't go out and drink because he knows how against drinking his girlfriend is... So when one of his friends asks him to come out he says no im gonnna stay here and talk to my girlfriend I dont think she'd like it if I went out...
So the more I come to think about it I think he is giving off the wrong perspective of his girlfriend to his friends... One because what I see from her point of view is she is trying to regain her trust in him... Two he is the one doing this stuff for her, if he didnt want to sit around he could just say look i am going out with my friends... Three since this guy basically cheated on her I dont wonder why shes afraid when hes around other girls.. I myself would be afraid... But I can see that she is working on it... I remember the other day I went out with the both of them and this one random girl his girlfriend never met came running up to him and leaped into his arms wrapped her legs around him and hugged him right in front of her... She just turned her head and tried to ignore it and did not say a word to him...
Crazy controling bitch? I really dont believe so... but I guess that is just one persons opinion that cant see both sides of the story... Being friends with both of them I feel he is just as guilty as she is... Both of them have made their mistakes and i believe that they are fighting to work it out...
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This is so true because i have once been called a control freak by one of my boyfriends boyfriend. And it really hurt me because if anything im very reserved and dont fight when he goes out the only thinkg that i asked was that when he came home on the weekend that we could hangout one night.(he went away to college in a different state so we only saw each other maybe on weekends). so basically he would make plans to come hangout with me on say friday then as we are out to dinner his friends would call him up wanting him to go to a party and he would say i cant im with my girl eating some dinner.we are hanging out tonight and it was like his friend took it the wrong way and that i said you have to hangout with me tonight! which it wasnt like that i didn't think that it was controlling to ask if we could hangout and i let him pick which night so that the other night could be for "the guys" but when i told my boyfriend about his friend and asked why would he say that....am i really controlling and my boyfriend told me that all 4 out of the 5 guys he hung out with didnt have girlfriends so they always got mad when he wouldnt go out with the guys.so i felt better but i have met a few of the control freaks guys and girls and its really sad because it's not even a relationship one is the dominant control freak while the other one just puts up with it.
first of all if i would have seen some girl that i had no idea who she was come running up into MY MANS arms with legs wrapped and every thing, she would have been down and OUT!
my boyfriend and i are in agreement that neither of us like one other hanging out with the oppite sex, let alone haveing legs wrapped. OMG when i read that i thought about what if that happend to me and my boyfriend with some random girl putting her skanky legs all over him. i got angry all over my body.
but if that happened to me my boyfriend would have been just as mad.
but i'm so with you! just one time cheating i would have left him. NO QUESTIONS. i dont take crap like that. i dont' care how much i loved him. if that guy loves her he would never want to hurt her like he has, or am i just living in a fanacy world?