Childless at 18

i'm so sorry. my dad married my mom knowing that it would be difficult for her to have kids. don't worry; there's someone out there that will love and marry you.

The neighbors of my friend are adopting a child. They had problems with the birth of their first child, but wanted another. Adoption is great and I completely agree that people should consider adoption rather than jumping right to the abortion idea.
Also, don't think of yourself as "damaged goods." If someone wants to settle down and have a family with you, then they love you and will understand. There is no shame in it. You had a serious medical condition and it is most definitely not your fault.
Stay strong.

thank yall for the great comments. its nice to know that the person who loves you will accept you with whatever you have going on in your life :)

Remember the name.

Hannah was given Samuel when she couldn't conceive. Rachel received Joseph and Benjamin.

Any male who considers you "damaged goods" is obviously insignificant and worthless.

Vaya con Dios.

i totally agree with you..
i truely do..
abortion is murder but i think it could be possible for me to have kids so i dont know what you are truely goin threw..
but i did have a friend that had this same thing happen to her..
guess what??
she now has a beautiful baby boy..
she is a teen unmarried mother but at least she had him..
good luck i hope the best for anyone in this situation..

thatgirl2089

I'm very sorry that you're having to deal with this at such an early age and my heart goes out to you... You are not "damaged goods" - any man who views you as such is not worth your time and it clearly displays his ignorance. As for children, in time you may be able to have them through the aid of a fertility specialist who may be able to help you. There is also the option of adoption - to have a child you don't have to give birth to it. And, since you're such a proponent of adoption as opposed to abortion, I think that should give you even more incentive to do so when you and your partner want to have children but find yourself still unable to conceive.

I do however have to say one thing on the abortion issue. Going through a pregnancy and all it entails, the physical danger, the hormonal upsets, the emotional turmoil, all to give the child up in the end just isn't an option for some people. There are so many different circumstances that you can't simply paint the issue in black and white terms - life is all gray area... Take for example a fifty year old woman who has just found out she's pregnant. She and her husband cannot handle the financial burden of a child, and her body can no longer handle the process of pregnancy and labor without causing serious harm to both her and the child. Should she just go ahead and have it? I don't think so... Life is full of options and I think abortion should always legally be an option for those who need it and for those who want it - it isn't your body to be making decisions and laws for as you won't be the one dealing with the consequences. Just my opinion :).

You were given two sets of ovaries for a reason, so as long as both ovaries weren't completely removed, there's still a chance. Your best bet, though, is to plan around the idea that you aren't as likely to have kids. And if you are meant to have one or more of your own, then it'll happen. If it does happen, then great! Even more of a miracle for you. If not, well, you already figured that'd be the case anyway.

-- quis custodiet ipsos custodes?

Anyone who thinks you're "damaged goods" shouldn't be allowed to procreate in the first place. It doesn't matter whether you can give birth or not. As long as you care and take care of the child, you're his/her mother no matter what.

in calculus class the other day we were talking about abortions (off subject for a math class I know), but the thought of it just burned me up inside. if you dont want the child, GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION!!! do you know how lucky you are to be able to concieve in the first place?!

I'm sorry you have fertility issues, but you would be crazy to envy women with unwanted pregnancies. That's like a virgin telling a rape victim, "do you know how lucky you are to be able to have sex in the first place?!" Or an abortion patient telling a woman who miscarried, "do you know how lucky you are to be able to lose a pregnancy without trying?!"

There's nothing lucky about unwanted pregnancy, just as there's nothing lucky about unwanted sex, unwanted miscarriage or unwanted infertility.

Well heres the kicker... im an 18 year old virgin who promised God I would not have sex until i get married. I have always wanted children and now i feel like i am "damaged goods".

Join the club! Lots of us feel like "damaged goods" and still manage to make the most of what we have. No one is perfect.

I was a mom at 18. I thought I was "damaged goods" that no man would want, because who would want to raise another man's child? But I was wrong; I met and married a wonderful infertile man, and am living happily ever after.

what do you say to a future spouse or serious boyfriend, "oh, by the way, if your considering marrying me and raising a family; it might not happen..."

You can always marry a man who already has children, or adopt, or use donor eggs (perhaps from a sister, cousin or aunt of yours). Worry about crossing that bridge when you come to it. Lots of people have fertility issues, and many of them don't find out until after they're married. When someone loves you, they won't care that you might not be fertile.

Sweety I gave you a five because you had the courage to talk about your problems instead of holding them in, falling apart, and later on getting depressed. I feel for you about having kids. In the beginning I thought that I would not be able to have kids because they told me when I was 16 that one ovary was bigger than the other one. So because the other one was big, I probably would not be able to have kids. Boy were they wrong. When I was 19, on Feb. 12th I found out I was pregnant. Yes I will admit I did not plan this pregnancy , but if you read The Burden Stopping you from College1,2and 3. you will see what I did.You are not damaged goods. There is still a chance that you can have kids so don't give that up. If you can't still have kids, then adopt. When the right man comes along, you will be his treasure not his damaged goods.He will accept you for the way you are completely or you can tell him to hit the door!Good blog.

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Not only do I agree with you but I have to put in that people are so selfish. Teenagers have sex for casual and fun not even wondering about the consequences. So careless. Typically, if a girl is going to have an abortion its because she doesn't want anyone to know. However, everyone knows she's been sleeping with a guy or around with a few guys so they knew it was going to happen anyway. My heart goes out to you for your commitment to God and for your unfortunate medical complications. I'm sure, like Jehovah Jirah said, that if it is God's will that he will grant you a miracle child. Don't let the doctors get you down. If you want to have a child, its not their decision. It's all up to God. Don't give up hope.

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