Pre-marital Sex should be Illegal

Making something illegal never solves a problem, generally, it just makes it worse. Also, sex, in any shape or form other than rape, should also never be made illegal. To make sex illegal in any fasion, say underage sex, would open up the flood gates and allow things like homosexual sex to be made illegal, and then you start infringing on people's rights. Plus, many parents do try to teach their children about sex. They may not teach them about abstinance, but they try to teach a little about safe sex. What their children decide to do with what their parents tell them is all up to them. It is in no way the parents fault. As someone who got pregnant at 16 this is something I had to stress to my parents over and over. In no way did me getting pregnant mean they were bad parents, it meant I made a poor decision in not listening to what they told me.
Just think of it this way: pot is illegal, does that stop many teens from smoking it? No. Making sex illegal will be just as pointless.

MommaTrish - mom of 2 boys and a bump

My mom had sex outside of marriage after divorcing two men. Should she go to jail too?

Sex (except rape, which is assault) should never be made illegal, simply because it is a personal choice. And how would you define marriage, anyway? Do you have to be married by the state, or will a religious ceremony do (as there are people who choose not to be recognized as married by the state, but have a religious ceremony)? What about homosexuals, who can't get married?

If you want to stop young girls from making the same 'mistake' you did (and it's not a mistake to every girl), then the best way to do it is to speak out about it, not make a law outlawing things based on your mistake.

~C
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The only type of sex that should ever be considered illegal is of course rape.

"Ever since I lost my virginity/innocense I've been racking my brain trying to come up with a way that could save other girls from making my same mistake."
Just because you think it was a mistake for you, dosn't mean it is or will be considered a mistake to someone else. I lost my virginity when I was 16. I don't think it was a mistake at all. I never have and I never will. Even though I'm not currently with the guy I lost it to, I still love him and always will. We have put each other thru hell and back and thru all of it neither one of us has ever thought it was a mistake. And we are still close friends. But it shouldn't be made illegal for anyone to have sex just because it is before marriage, underage or what not. That is violating a person's free will and their rights. Making it illegal will only make teens want to do it more. As with most things that are illegal. Like underage drinking. It is illegal, and most of the teens in my high school do drink.

Having sex is and should always be a decision made by the people having sex at the time.

<<>>FKJ<<>>

if two people love each other sex is OK. you shouldn't have to be married. times have changed. and when you're young, you're supposed to make mistakes. that's how you learn. if you didn't then you would be like 36 and still as immature as a 12 year old. when the government makes something illegal, more people just wanna do it. instead of saying sex out of wedlock should be illegal, push safe sex in your community.

Oral sex is illegal?
Since when?
With a minor, any sexual act is illegal--however the act as a whole is not.

What someone considers "losing their virginity" is different from what others consider it. I do not consider oral sex or stimulation to cause one to lose their virginity.

The fact that teenagers have sex isn't the reason that they might think casual sex is acceptable--the fact that they believe nothing will happen to them is the issue. If people spent time educating their children on respecting themselves, casual sex would not be a problem.

Oh! Yay! You are proposing a totalitarian government that will have the right to burst into people's homes to check for marriage certificates.

Please start using that lump of mass that might be inside your head. It would be impossible to control the consenting sexual actions of anyone without violating his/her privacy. From what I understand, it was your choice to have sex, and so you have no one but yourself to thank for your mistake. Your sister was also naive in allowing someone to perform oral sex on her without any protection. Yes, there are forms of protection for oral sex. People make their own choices, and live with the consequences.

~Violinstef

Well, I don't think it should be illegal...however, I think that the parents should be more responsible...maybe we should have sex ed for parents. : P Even if the parent brings their child up with proper morals and stuff, the kid could still have sex outside of marriage. I'm a Catholic homeschooler and I have multiple friends who've made that mistake. But I think that making the parents responsible could at least lower the rates.

Also, have you considered a second virginity? That's basically where you vow never again to have sex until you're married. It might heal some wounds ; )

Finally, like you did in this blog, let people know your thoughts! Yes, you're one case and it may not be the same for everyone, but if you're with a kid that's talking about having sex or something, warn them. Tell them it's not cool, etc.

RESPECT LIFE
http://progressiveu.org/blog/respectlife
"It is poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish."
~Mother Teresa

One needs to understand, life is all about SUFFERING!

Once YOU get to accept this upon a personal level, your live will become more bearable!

The good part being, life can even become joyful an experience to go through.

Life is not exactly a fairytale filled with the most amazing wonders and miracles which will manifest in abundance upon ones path.

For those who don’t receive any sexual education, they can easily access avalanches of information regarding whatever they which to know.

We have a great platform called Google.

One can ask this platform: “Can I get STD?”
Answer: http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/std-general.html

I bet this answer, sadly as it may seem, gathers more than mum or dad would probably ever know about the subject!

Some people have or experience bad sexual experiences, this can occur previous to marriage, during the wedding night while in some known cases soon after.

The thing is, it doesn’t really matter, which matters is to get over it, deal with it, whether its been deled with upon a personal or in whatever form of relationship held,
communication is the key!

Step one: figure out what the problem is

Step two: pounder this problem, why is it a problem, were does it come from, what is the solution.

Step three: deal with it

Step four: LEARN FROM YOUR EXPIERENCE!

Step five: don’t ever generalize YOUR personal OWN experience to that of another
individual.

Step sex: fill in your own sex life according to your own personal wishes.

Step seven: to know it all! what to do if you don’t carry a clue?

Have a Google day,

STDs are not considered a good thing, but there is an unreasonable stigma placed on them. most STDs are curable and do little to affect your life if you take your medicine.

some are not, but that is your own personal issue.