Stupid Love
Why is summer the time for flings? I mean, why cant it be "summer love" . . no such thing in my opinion.. unless your already in a relationship. in the 4 years ive been keeping log of this "so-called-life" ive found out more-so then ever that summer is when the guys un pack their abundant amount of self esteem and large egos and tred through the world with a million dollar smile so that girls, like freakin mosquitos to a light, hop on the next train to sexville. jesus, is life only about sex now? what happened to the good ol', lets date because i like you and i want to try this out. Because of introduction to these flings (because its just so damn popular now-a-days) people are starting to like it better because they dont get hurt because they know what to expect. People are afraid to date now because they think that when you date its AFTER you have sex and BEFORE 100% security that you know it will work. NO! Flings have become the process that dating used to be. Dating isnt the title, dating is the process of discovering this new person and having fun out somewhere and experiencing something new. Dating isnt boyfriend and girlfriend, its a verb not a noun. But now that flings have become so popular people think that dating is not valid because when you go on a date there is a chance to be hurt -- OR when people do go on dates they are already with this person for awhile after one or two encounters. Twice in my life have I met a man that asked me on a date, and the most he did was kiss my hand and hug me -- not because he didnt like me, but because he wanted to TAKE IT SLOW .. and we did. Yea, his poor little heart was pounding on the floor scared of rejection -- but all it takes is a womans few words to say, "its okay."
This up and coming generation KILLS me. Honestly, to see what people are becoming makes me SICK and totally disgusted. I love kids, cant wait to get married and have them -- and yet, sadly, i have to question if i really want to bring such a beautiful child into a world that will swallow it whole in seconds. Cell phones, video games, mp3's, sure i love them, i know i cant live without them .. .. .. but its a disease. i am not ADDICTED to my cell phone, i do not need a game console in my hand to make me happy, and i certainly do not have headphones in my ear every ten seconds. What world is it that you cant look around and appreciate the sound of the trees instead of loud pumping music all the time, or the sight of the clouds forming instead of a fighting game on an LCD screen, OR EVEN just appreciate life that isnt virtually casted on your cell phone. Why is it that everyone is so ignorant to life? Why is it that man is only getting dumber since the stone age? It gets me so angry that at a party, I can open a conversation of stars and life and out of a group of ten, one stays to continue it on -- mostly just because they are drunk and think they can talk like a philosopher. Whatever, I challenge their minds anyway. No one wants to think harder, no one wants to explore, no one wants to challenge the ideas of others -- all because of laziness, and stupidity.
When you put these two statements together, you get Stupid Love. Ignorant people, plus people who just go from one person to another spreading diseases (but feeling EGO-TASTIC all the while) you get STUPID LOVE. people who dont know how to love, what to do with love, people who cant grasp onto concepts or romance or ideas NOTHING. you get people who wont communicate without fighting over a cellphone or IM, people who cant talk or function when they come into "spotlight" situations, you get DRONES --- and you get a divorce rate of 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages ending in divorce. WHY IS THERE EVEN A THIRD MARRIAGE??? BECAUSE PEOPLE THINK THAT MARRIAGE IS A FLING TOO....
STUPID LOVE. its not that those few out there don't know how to love, its that the rest of the world doesn't know what love is.
"Twice in my life have I met a man that asked me on a date, and the most he did was kiss my hand and hug me -- not because he didnt like me, but because he wanted to TAKE IT SLOW .. and we did. Yea, his poor little heart was pounding on the floor scared of rejection -- but all it takes is a womans few words to say, "its okay." -you said
i agree that's all it takes...it freaking hard... I hate having to ask some one out. It hurts inside and you don't know how "morally correct" she is... It sucks, i wish for once that girls would understand and just as easily help the guy out.
About the rest of the blog i agree with you the whole dating is being underminded by flings but personally im a bit on both sides, i like flings and i like dating, it is hard on both sides (male and female) and most people wimp out so they don't have to go through rejection again.
Saint O Nothin' Says
PEACE
OH and see what GOD and the J-Man really thinks of you at
http://progressiveu.org/093043-god-does-not-love-you
I think part of it to is that some people are scared to be alone. Look at this day an age. You walk through the halls of highschools, and even junior highs and all you see is kids holding hands. You go to a movie theatre and you see teenagers making out. its disgusting.
But for some reason, it makes people want to be with someone. Then things dont work out, and they move on to someone else.
Half the time they dont even like the person, they just feel that they need someone.
I think the reason that flings occur during vacation rather than actual love is pretty simple. For one thing, people are on vacation with people they'll never see again. So love is impractical and you don't really have a chance to know the person. people sometimes pretend to be someone else when they are away from home. Also, things move faster because there is less time. You might casually hang out with a person before dating them and then kiss them by the third or fourth date, but in the summer, if you only have a few weeks with the person, there is more pressure and you want the whole experience anyways.
Like what you've read? Well, then here's more:
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/tricia0711