I was looking for a second job and had asked my mother if she would pick me up an application for her work. She works a deli in a supermarket. Then I left for my first job.
This morning I asked my mother if she had picked up the application for me. She told me she didn't want me to work there because people talk about other people horrifically behind each others backs and she didn't want to hear someone talk bad about me. I had to argue that was a fairly lame excuse because no matter where you go people will be mean and talk bad about everyone behind their backs. So then she told me that she would only pick up an application for me if I promise to work by the same work ethics as she "brought me up to have".
I don't know about anyone else but my mother didn't teach me work ethics. She just drilled the saying "work hard and God will award you." I have worked hard at more than 4 different jobs in the past 6 years. My mother hadn't held a job since I was in second grade. If anyone taught me work ethics it was my father.
I have a very different personality than my mother. My mother is quiet and submissive and avoids conflict, unless she is dealing with her family. I, on the other hand, have a very deep leadership personality. I come off very prideful, and maybe I really am, but my job always gets done and people still love me. But Hell like anyone would yell at me for not completing a task they themselves don't even know how to do. I am one that expect people to gain respect for me, and also careful as to how I gain respect of others.
So...on to the actual point. My mother wanted me to promise that work like she work...humble, sincere, obedient, and respectful of authority. I couldn't promise that I would. All I could promise was that I would get the job done. We actually fought about it. She ended with "If you can't act the way I brought you up, then don't work where I work. I will not tolerate it. If I feel you are not living up to my ethics you will not be working there anymore."
I'm still flaming. I want to go and fill out an application and see what she would do anyway. I don't know what I'm going to do.
"Keep dreaming, just dream with both eyes open" -- Alicia J. Grover
Personally, I wouldn't work where my mom works. If she says that people are really nasty there, then it's not worth it. Find a job that will give you a new experience and where you're mom won't be watching your every step.
She was right about the work ethics, but sometimes you have to be firm. Act the way you usually do and like you said, people like you.
Well I'm not looking for a new experience. I have several years of the same bloody experience and nothing my mom does is any different. Besides...everyone who doesn't go to church ever bloody morning are nasty people to her.
My work ethic is "keep calm, everything will get done" I would never leave with out finishing a task unless my manager said so. But my mother has no backbone when it comes to dealing with co-workers, never mind managers.
Oh well...like I said I'm just fuming.
"Keep dreaming, but dream with both eyes open" -- Alicia J. Grover